Bit of Happy #8: Free Yourself

23 Sep

“Let go of the things in the past, only then can you be free.”

I wrote this entry quite a bit ago. And even though it isn’t quite accurate with where my life stands today, I still felt some of you may get some encouragement or insight out it it. It was a fun post at the time, so I decided to post it anyway. So here it is…

Heavy burdens and broken hearts of the past can weigh you down and keep you from flying free, from living life. This quote has been an inspiration in my life, over and over again.

Most recently, I was hurt by a very close friend of mine. Out of no where, he dropped into my life, and we more or less became instant best friends. We were both seeing other people at the time, so a strong friendship built naturally. I trusted him with everything I had. I never imagined either of us hurting one another. And when things moved to the next level as our significant others faded into the past, I was even more confident in those beliefs.

Long story short and lots of drama later, we ended with – he wasn’t ready for anything serious, and I was, well, nothing short of broken. Coming from a past of being hurt by total jerks, I never thought in a million years that my best friend – well, that we would end up the way we did.

But the point of blubbering about all of this isn’t even about my broken heart. It’s the fact that after that… I swore to myself that I would put my guard up and never, EVER let it down again. I was tired and done with opening myself up, only to be hurt. You know, the song with the lyrics: “This time, baby, I’ll be bulletproof” – Yeah, that was my life’s theme song.

Anyway, I met a guy this summer. Side note: I have a track record for terrible first dates and definitely never second ones. And by terrible, I mean either creepy, ignorant, ready to say ‘I Do’ or… I’m just not really feeling it. Well, this new guy was polite, down-to-earth, creative, intelligent and we both had a lot of common interests. Oh, and he’s pretty cute too.

Building, building.. (Man I am wordy today) THE POINT: I would have never even given this guy a chance if I’d allowed my past to hold me back. If I hadn’t set myself free from the last heart break, this prince-charming-of-a-guy wouldn’t have fallen into my life. I could have been curled up in my bed, crying the moment I actually spent meeting him.

That’s what’s funny about life.. Think – instead of hanging onto the guy that’s obviously bad for you, why not get out there and live in the moments you were supposed to live and run into the guy who is right (not literally). But really, if you even have a doubt that he’s not treating you the way he’s supposed to be, he probably isn’t. If your making up excuses in your mind for him – reasons why he isn’t treating you right – then he’s not the right one. I can promise you that.

I was reading “He’s Just Not That Into You” when I was not officially “dating” but being “exclusive” with my best friend. I hated the book. It was telling me everything I didn’t want to hear. That my best friend wasn’t right for me. I was so blinded by him and my misconstrued way of thinking that he was right for me that I thought the book was SO BEYOND wrong. If I just wait a lllliiittttllllleeee longer, then he’ll — stop me there. PLEASE!

But I’m seeing the light. ‘New guy’ has showed me the light. Whether this new guy is the one for me or not, he has put a lot of things into perspective. One – He’s showed me how guys should and can treat a girl. Two – If he and I don’t work out, it simply wasn’t meant to be and someone else will come along. Three – Don’t ever allow your past to burden or impede on living your future to the fullest. Learn from it, be cautious of it (without a doubt), but don’t ever let it hold you back from living.

One Response to “Bit of Happy #8: Free Yourself”


  1. Bit of Happy #39: Be Brave « - November 5, 2010

    […] The other night I was talking to a friend of mine who I hadn’t seen or talked to in months. It felt like forever since I’d spoken with him last, and at the same time, like I’d just left his college dorm room and gone up the two flights of stairs back to mine. Anyway, we were both very hesitant about meeting each other because of… well, because of the way things were left between us, and because of the unknown that lies ahead. If you want to catch up on the back story, I explain a bit of it in Bit of Happy #8: Free Yourself. […]

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