Bit of Happy #81: To Lie or to Tell the Truth

4 Jan

“What is better – a lie that draws a smile, or a truth that draws a tear?”
-Miracle on 34th Street

Definitely a great quote for discussion, the meaning within these words can be applied to countless situations. It wasn’t too long ago that I was talking with a friend about a situation that was more or less guided by this very question.

What’s better…

…to lie and avoid causing discomfort or unhappiness to the other person?

or…

…to tell the truth and risk hurting the other person?

It’s a difficult question. One where both parts have their benefits. And their detriments. But when it comes to my views, thoughts and opinions, I mostly run with the ‘honesty is the best policy’ type of mentality. Hurting someone is never easy. Knowing you’ve caused pain or sorrow is no walk in the park either.

But we too must think about what happens when we don’t tell the truth. When we keep our thoughts and feelings hidden. What good does it do for the other person? In the short term, it may spare them some time away from hurt. But in the end, the truth will always surface. And by then, the pain brought upon the other person could be much, much worse.

I’ve come across times in my life where the truth would only bring the person harm. Where there is no foreseen benefit. No chance for positive steps in the future. Where this truth will truly only bring dark storm clouds overhead, waiting to burst. So now the question is, do they deserve to know the truth despite the weight within those words? Or should you choose to keep it from them – blanket them in warmth and safety from the reality?

Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers to all of life’s questions. And I will dare to say that there may be certain situations that are better off living a lie. There may very well be exception to the rule. The only bit of advice I can give you from here is to follow your heart. Switch positions with the other person and contemplate what fate you would want for yourself. I have faith in you. As long as you keep the best interest of others in mind, I think you’ll be on the right track to making good decisions.

Happy Tuesday!

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