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Bit of Happy #148: Together Forever

21 Apr

“We have been friends together in sunshine and in shade.”
-Anonymous

The type of friendship that we all search and long for. Reliability. Strength. Trust. Honesty. A friendship that will uphold through the thick and thin, in the sunshine and shade. That no matter what life brings, no matter what the obstacle or challenge at hand, two true friends will walk together.

Not only does today’s quote suggest this wonderful, “picture-perfect” friendship, but the author also hints towards it being possible (which is one of my favorite parts!). That, in spoken words, it has come true. That an unbreakable bond can be formed between two people throughout life. That compassion and selflessness can shine through despite the crazy ride our lives tend to lead.

And it’s the unpredictable future, the inevitable unknown that truly proves the strength of a friendship. Puts every aspect to the test. There is no doubt that relationships go through ups and downs – bend just before the point of breaking. Despite this struggle, it’s the willingness to fight for the other that will pull both of you through. That will bring your friendship out of the shade and back into the sun.

And the best part, that time of trial will have mostly likely made that bond stronger, richer… more full. You may have learned something new about the other person, or your relationship with them. You may have revealed a new depth of yourself and can now better understand the meaning of trust. You may have proven your confidence and faithfulness to the friendship in a time of doubt.

Always remember… when you find a friendship like the one described in today’s quote, treasure it like gold. Be willing to give it all of the nurture and effort it requires. Hold on tight because the ride along the way can be full of dips and sharp turns. Whether you’re in the shade or basking in the sunshine, hopefully when you look over at that special person, you can smile. You can smile and know that as long as they are at your side, everything will be just fine.

Do you have a friend like this in your life? What are some challenges you have faced along the way?

Bit of Happy #147: Just Enough Courage

20 Apr

[So, I’ve got a bit of a dilemma when it comes to photographs for this week, and perhaps the next couple of weeks. I have been dying to get out and take pictures of all the beautiful blooming going on outside, but because of my allergies, I’ve been restricted to indoors. As soon as I can get out there, I will and will update these entries with photographs. Until then, Little Bits of Happy will have to go on without them. Now for today’s quote…!!!]

“The only courage that matters is the kind that gets you from one moment to the next.”
– Mignon McLaughlin

Just enough courage to get from one moment to the next. Each minute, hour, day that passes. Sometimes it takes a lot of courage to get from one minute to the next and other times, it is smooth sailing through countless hours or even days.

But it’s those moments in life that are difficult and challenging that shine true courage. It’s those moments that you have to muster the confidence to get through each second that show your true strength. And even when you have to take one moment at a time to keep from getting overwhelmed, that’s okay too! Mignon McLaughlin gives great insight into what really matters, and that’s finding just enough courage to get from one moment in life to the next.

Bit of Happy #3: Getting Through the Regret

16 Sep

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”
-Carl Bard

I know what it’s like wanting to go back in time.. wanting to redo even years at a time. Things could have been so different if I had just…

But that’s not what life is about. We must live in the present – go from this day forward. I’m not saying to forget the past – remember it, learn from it… but move forward from it. So many of us get stuck in the past, so deep that we miss opportunities in the present. And instead of living in an optimistic future, we stumble – too busy looking back.

Bard says it all in a single sentence. Let’s face it, you can’t go back and start from the beginning (until someone creates a successful time machine). It’s impossible. But something you can do – you and anyone else… You can start from today, this very moment, and open your heart to the possibilities of the future.

What are your stories? Have you ever found yourself living in the past? Wishing you could change a choice you made?

What did you do to move forward? Or better yet, what has this post inspired you to do to move forward?

My Story…

When I was younger, I was very shy, kinda’ (okay, okay… VERY) nerdy, and I didn’t really talk to anyone in school. I wasn’t involved in any clubs or sports – I’d gotten cut from the soccer team right before school started my freshmen year. I got made fun of – not to the extent of being thrown into lockers, but I was far from prom queen. At home, I was my normal goofy self – happy and outgoing.

Something about school just zipped my mouth and the key had a very good hiding place. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t just open my mouth. Was it fear? Was it a lack of confidence? Was it out of my comfort zone?

My past was consumed in silence…

I’ll never forget the morning of the first day of tryouts for Field Hockey. I had no idea what I was doing or how to play the game (not even that you couldn’t hit the ball with both sides of the stick). I remember sitting in the car with my mom, butterflies nauseating my stomach.

“I can’t do this. I can’t do this,” I said, my heart running a marathon.

“You don’t have to do this. But I know you can,” my mom said, ever encouragingly.

I’ll tell you this, I don’t know what made me get out of that car – whether it was the leap of faith that I was talking about in an earlier post, or the mere thought of ‘what do I have to lose?’

So I learned quickly and had a sort of natural talent for the sport. I managed to make the cuts.. I made the Varsity Field Hockey team. I couldn’t believe it – my life was about to change, and I had no idea what was in store for me.

The senior Field Hockey girls brought me under their wing and taught me everything I needed to know. They taught me what confidence was. They taught what it was like to have a close circle of friends. They taught me not to fear the unknown, but rather embrace it. To take the risk. To take the chance. To step out of the past that was swallowing me up and move forward with the ‘me’ that I wanted to be.

Sometimes I think about what my life could have been like if I hadn’t gotten out of the car that morning…

Letting my past get the better of me for all those years is something I can say I truly regret. But I’m proud of myself for having the courage to step out of the darkness and into the light of the present.



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