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Bit of Happy #117: Spiraling Change

9 Mar

“Change moves in spirals, not circles. For example, the sun goes up and then it goes down. But every time that happens, what do you get? You get a new day. You get a new one. When you breathe, you inhale and you exhale, but every single time that you do you’re a little bit different than the one before. We’re always changing. And it’s important to know that there are some changes you can’t control and that there are others you can.”
-From the movie, Half Nelson

Though I’ve never seen the movie, I came across this quote a few days ago and thought it was absolutely incredible. I’m not even sure what kind of movie this is, but if it has a quote this amazing, it’s got to be decent. In fact, I’ll probably make an effort to see the movie now that I’ve found this quote.

Change. A constant motion. The possibility of a similar pattern, but never exactly the same. This type of realization and the way it is projected sheds a new light on how we live – “you inhale and you exhale, but every single time that you do you’re a little bit different than the one before.”

Despite the minimal quantitative difference overall, each breath we take we have changed in some way than the one before. We are a little older. Hopefully, a little wiser. We may have adjusted the position of our body, or physically moved forward or backward. We may have learned something new. We may have been struck with a vision that we were previously blind to. We may have accomplished something we’ve been giving our all lately. I could go on and on. Change is endless and constant. And the sooner we all recognize and accept that power, the closer we will be to accepting the inevitable – “that there are some changes you can’t control and that there are others you can.”

These changes are the things that happen to us throughout are lives. Some we choose to happen, others are out of our grasp. Some changes are desirable, others can be our worst living nightmare. Today’s quote makes it pretty clear that the importance of change lies in the decisions made proceeding those original changes. It’s not what you can’t control that’s important, but rather what you can.

There are countless instances in life of these types of changes. Does anyone want to share one of their experiences?

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Bit of Happy #101: Live In The Now!

15 Feb

“Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now.”
-Denis Waitley

You’ve got to start somewhere, because if there’s no beginning to change, how do you ever expect to grow? Learn from your past, yes, but don’t live in it. By learning, you are changing. And by changing you are growing. And by growing, you are taking advantage of the present and putting your best foot forward.

Today’s quote has a lot of truth in that we only really have control over what is happening in this very moment. The past is already done – something that cannot be changed; something that is completely out of our control. The only thing we can choose to do with our past is learn from it and change how we will live our present.

And the future, well, that story is left unwritten and has yet to unfold. I can’t say, in this moment, that five years from now I will have met my soulmate, and we will get married. I have no control over when that will happen, or if it ever will happen. I believe, when it comes to looking forward to the future, it comes with a lot of hope. Why do I believe that? Honestly, there is no guarantee that I will live past tomorrow, or tonight even. I can only hope. I can only hope that I will live past tomorrow. And the next day. And the next day. And a million days after that!

But the moment in time that we do have control over is now. We can choose to set goals and learn from our past to make the best of the present moment. Whether we go forwards or backwards is completely our decision. Whether we choose to hold on to all of our wrongdoings and drown in our sorrowed memories is completely up to us. But we can also decide to live in the only moment of time over which we have any control… And that is now.

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