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Bit of Happy #129: Don’t Miss Out

25 Mar

“Plenty of people miss their share of happiness – not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it.”
-William Feather

Sometimes it’s difficult for us to realize what we truly have. If some of the most precious things in our lives were suddenly jeopardized, I believe we would see into a small window of what it would be like without them.

After reading that very sentence, it’s the things that first popped into your mind; those are the things that mean the most to you. And those are the first things you should put most of your effort into. Most of you heart into. Stop to enjoy and celebrate the days you are given.

Each and every day you are given with them should be a day cherished. So hug them a little tighter. Love them more than yesterday. Show you appreciate all of the little things they do.

Your happiness is all around you. You’re breathing it in, basking in its warmth. But until you take a moment, close your eyes and remember all of the reasons you have to be happy, you may let it pass you by.

Speaking of happy… Happy Friday!

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Bit of Happy #110: Live Like We’re Dying

28 Feb

“Live Like We’re Dying”
by Kris Allen

Why I haven’t shared this song sooner with Little Bits of Happy, I can’t quite explain. But it’s here now! “Live Like We’re Dying,” by Kris Allen has countless phrases within the song that I find myself hanging on to. The realities of life are so apparent and lucid in these lyrics – through the proposed questions and the secrets to walking a meaningful, enlightened path.

“So if your life flashed before you,
What would you wish you would’ve done?”

“And if your plane fell out of the skies,
Who would you call with your last goodbye?”

Embedded in the lyrics are questions. Questions that may be difficult to answer; others that may be as plain as day. But I love how this song makes you think. Makes you question. Makes you evaluate your life, and helps you realize the truly important things. The things you need to set as your top priority.

“Sometimes we fall down, can’t get back up.
We’re hiding behind skin that’s too tough.
How come we don’t say I love you enough?
Till it’s too late, it’s not too late.”

Life can be challenging – even bend you until you break. And out from these difficult experiences, we put on a thick skin to keep this vulnerability from happening again. We build these walls around ourselves so nothing can get in. Nothing bad, but nothing good either.

Is that really the answer here? Should we hide from life because it might end up breaking us? Should we not risk being happy because it may hurt us so much more in the end?

“We only got 86,400 seconds in a day…” to either change what we’ve got and make it better or waste that time doing nothing. We have the opportunity to change our lives, the lives of others.. the world. “Till it’s too late, it’s not too late.” Until we take our very last breath, the world is in our hands. It’s up to us whether we lift it up or break it down.

What will you do with your seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, years… time?

Bit of Happy #105: A Little Bit Stronger

21 Feb

“A Little Bit Stronger”
by Sara Evans

“And I’m done hoping that we could work it out
I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I’m done thinking that you could ever change

I know my heart will never be the same
But I’m telling myself I’ll be okay
Even on my weakest days,
I get a little bit stronger
.”

My past has presented the possibility for me to, fortunate or not, strongly relate to each lyric of this song. And on some level, I think everyone who has risked their heart for love and then was let down has. Certainly not the easiest moments of life, “A Little Bit Stronger,” by Sara Evans describes the aftermath of a breakup. From hearing songs on the radio to having to force a smile and ignore the hurt, the lyrics bleed the truth. They are real and honest. How do I know this? Because I’ve been through these lyrics, word for word.

And I’m not saying it’s a walk in the park. Because it’s not; it is far from it actually. But what I am saying is this… There are really, really, REALLY difficult times in life. Times that you believe you’ll never make it through in one piece. But when you surprise yourself and do find that strength to put the pieces back together… The moment when you turn around and a month has gone by without crying, you smile to yourself a little bit. You get ‘a little bit stronger.’

The moment you realize you need to put your foot down and stop letting him (or her) drag your heart around, you get ‘a little bit stronger.’

Once you accept that your heart may never be the same, but you’ll still be okay… you get ‘a little bit stronger.’

I especially love the lyrics: “Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger.” Each day you make it through, it’s a little bit step towards finding who you are again. It’s a little step towards living life without that person. It’s a little step towards leaving the hurt behind. Each day you get further away from the initial day of breaking up, you realize you can make it in this life without them.

And even when you don’t realize that… even when you still believe that he (or she) will change… even when you still hope that he (or she) will come running back into your arms… Even on those days, you ‘get a little bit stronger.’ You get a little bit stronger because even in moments of weakness, it is still time that passes. And with time comes healing.

In my weakest days, I never thought I would move on. In many ways, I was determined to do the opposite. I wanted to hold on for the rest of my life. But looking back on it now… going many, many days without a tear. Going many, many days without wishing he’d come back. Going many, many days without allowing him to drag my heart around. I’ve realized I’m stronger. A lot stronger. And better off.

Looking back on it now, having found someone new… someone who has showed me how I deserve to be treated… someone who smiles just to see me smile, I wouldn’t change a single moment of my past. I wouldn’t change the hurt that I’ve had to endure. I wouldn’t change the choices I’ve made or the moments I’ve shared with people. If I wished for that, I wouldn’t be me. I wouldn’t be able to appreciate and truly cherish what I have now. So instead of regretting the past, I celebrate it. Because without my past, I wouldn’t in the very moment that I am now.

So have a listen, I hope you get the same sense of strength from “A Little Bit Stronger” that I have!

Happy Monday!

Bit of Happy #28: A Bit Of Hope

21 Oct

“Some days, there won’t be a song in your heart. Sing anyway.”
-Emory Austin

At the beginning of October, I was working on a Breast Cancer Awareness Month campaign at work, and it had me thinking that I should dedicate a special entry to all of those who have had to endure the hardship of breast cancer – whether it was a friend, family member, or you. Cancer is a scary thing. In moments, your world can be turned upside down, and before you know it, you could very well be fighting for your life, or helping a loved one fight for theirs.

It has been over a year now since my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Fortunately, it was caught at an early stage, and she is now in remission. But I’ll never – not for one second – forget that sickening feeling wash over my entire body when I found out…

A few weeks prior, my mom told me she went to have a mammogram and that the results came back unclear, so she had to go back for more testing. She said it was probably nothing to worry about and that it has happened to her before, but she just wanted me to know. I felt a pang of worry, but in the coming weeks while waiting for the new results, the worry faded away.

One night, she came over to my dorm apartment (I was still in college at the time) to drop off a few things, and she came in and sat down on my bed. I was chatting away, putting away clothes that I’d just gotten out of the dryer – not really paying any attention. But as I was hanging something in my closet, all of a sudden, it hit me. I dropped whatever was in my hands in that moment and turned to look at her. I could suddenly sense all of her fear, all of her sadness, all of her anxiety. Neither of us said a word. There was no need to. The room, in a matter of moments, felt heavy and dark. Hopeless. We just looked at each other as our eyes filled with tears. I didn’t even realize the steps I’d taken to close the gap between us. I still don’t know if I held her, or if she held me.

Seeing that fleck of terror in her eyes, even if only for a few moments, I felt all of my walls begin to tumble down. My mom has always been strong, courageous and incredibly positive. Even the slightest possibility of living the rest of my life without my mother, my support, my everything… it was a daunting concept to even allow pass through my mind. What would I do without her? It was one of the most terrifying moments in my life. I felt completely and utterly helpless.

And it was that very feeling that not only me, but so many of us have had to endure because of breast cancer, some other type of illness or just any situation leading to the realization that, I or someone I love could die from this. But just like this quote, some days aren’t happy ones, some days you wonder if you have anything left to give, some days you have no hope left for a bright future. And it is those days that this quote is asking you to sing anyway, find the strength anyway, give anyway, hope anyway… Fight. Until your last breath, sing even without the song in your heart.

So, here’s to Breast Cancer Awareness Month and finding the cure to save future generations. Here’s to all of the survivors and families who have beat breast cancer. Here’s to all of the donations and charity events going towards finding a cure. And most importantly, I mean this with my entire heart, here’s to those who have suffered loss to breast cancer. May you always keep them safe in your heart and mind and live your lives as full as possible – just as they would have wanted.

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