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Bit of Happy 131: Goals Aren’t Enough!

29 Mar

“Goals aren’t enough! You need goals plus deadlines: goals big enough to get excited about and deadlines to make you run. One isn’t much good without the other, but together they can be tremendous.”
-Ben Feldman

A while back, I started thinking about where Little Bits of Happy was going. What do I want to accomplish? When will it be finished? How many Little Bits of Happy should there be? For the past two months or so, I’ve been sitting on these big questions. I started this blog without a clear distinct ending point, and though I had a goal of changing the world through my quotes and my thoughts… how will I measure the success of that?

Though some of these questions are still left unanswered, today’s quote by Ben Feldman made me realize the true importance of deadlines. The goal of changing lives through my words was certainly enough to get me excited, but it’s the deadline that I believe will give me the drive to accomplish it. So here it is:

Deadline: I want to get to Bit of Happy #365 by April 30 of next year, 2012.

That’s right! 365 Quotes – one quote for each day of the year! Like your morning coffee, Little Bits of Happy can become a daily ritual – that little bit of inspiration to get motivated for the day ahead.

Since I have #234 left, and that’s more than twice the amount that I have now, I realize the weight of this commitment. It will take a lot of motivation to still be posting a Little Bit of Happy every day this time next year. But I want to do this. And as long as that passion, that drive stays with me, I know I can do this.

Why does there have to be an end? There are a lot of other dreams and aspirations I want to accomplish in life. And believe it or not, this commitment takes up a great deal of my time. Because of this, it is important to have a deadline – an ending point. Not because I want Little Bits of Happy to end, but because I want to fully experience this and then move on to the next chapter in my life. I never imagined this blog would steal my heart the way it has. I’ve always wanted to start one, but never did I think beyond its beginning. And now that Little Bits of Happy has hit the ground running, up to #131, the next step was to look into the future.

I hope you liked today’s quote, and perhaps felt inspired to create a deadline for a goal you have in life. Deadlines get things started and accomplished. And I think it helps us see that what we want is possible. The first step is to begin!

Happy Tuesday!

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Bit of Happy #95: Now Or Never

7 Feb

Though not a song you’ll hear on the radio right now, nor one with a million plus views on YouTube, “Now Or Never” by Steve Means certainly does not lack in meaningfulness. Not one verse goes to waste as “Now Or Never” takes you through life’s journey – the struggles and hardships, and the strength it takes to rise above them.

I love the powerful message behind this entire song, but here are a few of my favorite sets of lyrics:

“You take a chance,
And leave behind,
All that you have known.

Follow your dreams,
Into the dark.
The places you never thought you’d go.”

The level of vulnerability that comes with taking a chance and leaving behind everything you know can be undoubtedly overwhelming. I love that these lyrics recognize that difficulty, but still encourage you to follow your dreams even though you may not see the light at the end of the tunnel at first.

“So break into the light,
And the colors deep inside,
Will push away the doubt you find.
But maybe it’s that time,
For you to realize that it might be hard sometimes,
But you’ll be alright.”

Expressed through the chorus is the positivity of looking into the future and the awareness of life not always being easy. These lyrics give those who take a moment to listen to this song the opportunity to realize the benefit of taking those chances in life that may, at first, be scary. Because no matter what, you’ll be alright. You’ll learn. You’ll grow stronger. You’ll live life to its absolute fullest with little or no regret. You’ll step out of the darkness and ‘break into the light.’

I’m incredibly excited to share this song. Mostly because many of you have probably never heard of Steve Means, at least I don’t think he is all that popular. Not yet anyway. And I honestly love nothing more than finding a new, talented artist! And he is definitely that! So, hopefully you have a few minutes to listen to “Now Or Never.” You won’t be disappointed.

Happy Monday!

Bit of Happy #90: Stand

31 Jan

“Stand”
by Rascal Flatts

All of us know what it’s like to feel alone. Helpless. Vulnerable. “Like a candle in a hurricane. Just like a picture with a broken frame.” Life comes with a lot of uncertainty. The unknown can be very overwhelming. One minute your traveling along a newly paved road, and the next you find yourself taking twists and turns down a beaten path with no end in sight. “Stand” by Rascal Flatts recognizes those bumps in the road, but also shows the strength and patience people have to find the next right turn.

“Because when push comes to shove,
You taste what you’re made of.
You might bend ’til you break,
Because it’s all you can take.

On your knees you look up,
Decide you’ve had enough.
You get mad, you get strong.
Wipe your hands, shake it off,
Then you stand.”

 

I had a hard time finding the song I wanted to share this week, but the moment I skimmed over “Stand” in my iTunes playlist, there was no question. The lyrics are pure and real. Like the sunlight through a dusty window, this song shines truth and strength, overpowering the uncertainty that life sometimes leads.

Life’s like a novel,
With the end ripped out.
The edge of a canyon,
With only one way down.

Take what you’re given,
Before its gone.
Start holding on,
Keep holding on.”

It expresses the fight and determination. The hope and appreciation. We all have it inside of us. Burning inside of us. Sometimes it’s not always easy to find, but once our search crosses paths with that passion, we never give up. We uncover a new direction. And we don’t stop until we are back up on our own two feet. This song has never failed to give me the inspiration I need to keep fighting when things get tough, and I hope it can do the same for you!

Happy Monday!

Bit of Happy #81: To Lie or to Tell the Truth

4 Jan

“What is better – a lie that draws a smile, or a truth that draws a tear?”
-Miracle on 34th Street

Definitely a great quote for discussion, the meaning within these words can be applied to countless situations. It wasn’t too long ago that I was talking with a friend about a situation that was more or less guided by this very question.

What’s better…

…to lie and avoid causing discomfort or unhappiness to the other person?

or…

…to tell the truth and risk hurting the other person?

It’s a difficult question. One where both parts have their benefits. And their detriments. But when it comes to my views, thoughts and opinions, I mostly run with the ‘honesty is the best policy’ type of mentality. Hurting someone is never easy. Knowing you’ve caused pain or sorrow is no walk in the park either.

But we too must think about what happens when we don’t tell the truth. When we keep our thoughts and feelings hidden. What good does it do for the other person? In the short term, it may spare them some time away from hurt. But in the end, the truth will always surface. And by then, the pain brought upon the other person could be much, much worse.

I’ve come across times in my life where the truth would only bring the person harm. Where there is no foreseen benefit. No chance for positive steps in the future. Where this truth will truly only bring dark storm clouds overhead, waiting to burst. So now the question is, do they deserve to know the truth despite the weight within those words? Or should you choose to keep it from them – blanket them in warmth and safety from the reality?

Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers to all of life’s questions. And I will dare to say that there may be certain situations that are better off living a lie. There may very well be exception to the rule. The only bit of advice I can give you from here is to follow your heart. Switch positions with the other person and contemplate what fate you would want for yourself. I have faith in you. As long as you keep the best interest of others in mind, I think you’ll be on the right track to making good decisions.

Happy Tuesday!

Bit of Happy #50: Forever

22 Nov

It’s Bit of Happy #50 today! For some reason, I feel like this is some kind of milestone that I should recognize – half way to one hundred. Kind of ironic that today’s song is titled ‘Forever.’

Made me wonder how long Little Bits of Happy will last. I started this blog with no distinct idea of when I would be finished – no clear end point. The only goal I truly wanted to accomplish was to inspire others to seek out their own happiness through my little bits of happy, my favorite quotes. But when will I know I’ve reach that? Maybe I’ll find the answer to this question one day. But for now, I’m okay with not knowing. I’m okay with this question going unanswered.

Now to the song! ‘Forever’ by Ben Harper has been one of my favorites ever since I heard it for the first time. The gentle melody, the softly spoken lyrics and the revealed truth make this song one that I’ll never stop listening to. Sung almost at a whisper, the feeling expressed in these lyrics are strong and unforgettable. So feel free to have a listen. Hope you enjoy it!

“Forever always seems to be around when things begin, but forever never seems to be around when things end.”

The forever he sings about in this song, “Not talking about a year. No, not three or four. I don’t want that kind of forever in my life anymore,” is the kind of forever that everyone wants to find one day, right? But when do things truly last   f  o  r  e  v  e  r ? When is there as much passion and love in the beginning as there is in the end? Is it even possible? So often, our relationships take on a superficial type of forever. So often, things end with heart break. So often, things end in separation. So often, things end in divorce. What was once forever reflecting in your eyes, now leaves you wondering if things will last until tomorrow. Wow, this doesn’t sound very encouraging…

But it is meant to. Even with all odds against me, I still believe forever exists. I believe it is possible. I hope I can find my forever. Not necessarily any time soon – but one day. This song is meant to make you reflect. Make you think. Think about the future. Think about what you truly want out of this life. This song makes me recognize what the world is too often like, but it also makes me believe that there are still people out there looking for the real forever. The type of love that never dies. The type of love that understands and makes no promises that the cool winds won’t blow. The type of love that, against all odds, will never let the flame burn out, no matter what.

“So give me your forever, not a day less will do… from you.”

My BIGGEST question for you is… Did you see this as a sad song or a happy one? Was it the melody that made it sad or the lyrics?

Did you take something differently from this song?

Do you disagree with the lyrics or do you believe that are right on point?


Bit of Happy #44: The Fuel For Love

12 Nov

An old barn near my house.

“Your ability to trust fuels your ability to love.”
-Anonymous

To me, it’s amazing how so few words strung together can hold so much truth – so much meaning. It is something I’ve said for a long time now. Trust is everything in the eyes of love; without it, you are blind and with it, you can see forever and beyond.

What I love most about this quote is the word chosen – ability. Your ability. The amount of trust you can put into someone equates to or drives your ability to love another. Without it, love simply cannot exist.

The importance this quote lends to trust in reference to love, I believe, is true. So true. It’s monumental. Trust is the very foundation of love. If you build a foundation of straw, it’ll surely collapse as time goes on. If you build a relationship on lies and deception, it’ll surely disintegrate to nothing. However, the foundation that’ll last forever is the one build on trust, leading to love.

Now, where it gets interesting (well, interesting isn’t quite the right word) is when you add in all of the heartache and lies of previous relationships. Will it affect your ability to trust in something new that comes along? Will you put up a guard and try to protect yourself from getting hurt again? Is closing your ability to trust someone new the answer to keeping yourself from heartache? Without a willingness to trust another, will you find yourself alone in the end?

If you’re expecting me to answer all of these questions, then you’ve come to the wrong place. Just as much as you may want to know these answers, I think they may be different for each person. I still find myself searching for the answers to these very questions. What is right for me.

Anyway, this is what I thought about when I came across this quote. What do you think?


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