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Bit of Happy #105: A Little Bit Stronger

21 Feb

“A Little Bit Stronger”
by Sara Evans

“And I’m done hoping that we could work it out
I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I’m done thinking that you could ever change

I know my heart will never be the same
But I’m telling myself I’ll be okay
Even on my weakest days,
I get a little bit stronger
.”

My past has presented the possibility for me to, fortunate or not, strongly relate to each lyric of this song. And on some level, I think everyone who has risked their heart for love and then was let down has. Certainly not the easiest moments of life, “A Little Bit Stronger,” by Sara Evans describes the aftermath of a breakup. From hearing songs on the radio to having to force a smile and ignore the hurt, the lyrics bleed the truth. They are real and honest. How do I know this? Because I’ve been through these lyrics, word for word.

And I’m not saying it’s a walk in the park. Because it’s not; it is far from it actually. But what I am saying is this… There are really, really, REALLY difficult times in life. Times that you believe you’ll never make it through in one piece. But when you surprise yourself and do find that strength to put the pieces back together… The moment when you turn around and a month has gone by without crying, you smile to yourself a little bit. You get ‘a little bit stronger.’

The moment you realize you need to put your foot down and stop letting him (or her) drag your heart around, you get ‘a little bit stronger.’

Once you accept that your heart may never be the same, but you’ll still be okay… you get ‘a little bit stronger.’

I especially love the lyrics: “Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger.” Each day you make it through, it’s a little bit step towards finding who you are again. It’s a little step towards living life without that person. It’s a little step towards leaving the hurt behind. Each day you get further away from the initial day of breaking up, you realize you can make it in this life without them.

And even when you don’t realize that… even when you still believe that he (or she) will change… even when you still hope that he (or she) will come running back into your arms… Even on those days, you ‘get a little bit stronger.’ You get a little bit stronger because even in moments of weakness, it is still time that passes. And with time comes healing.

In my weakest days, I never thought I would move on. In many ways, I was determined to do the opposite. I wanted to hold on for the rest of my life. But looking back on it now… going many, many days without a tear. Going many, many days without wishing he’d come back. Going many, many days without allowing him to drag my heart around. I’ve realized I’m stronger. A lot stronger. And better off.

Looking back on it now, having found someone new… someone who has showed me how I deserve to be treated… someone who smiles just to see me smile, I wouldn’t change a single moment of my past. I wouldn’t change the hurt that I’ve had to endure. I wouldn’t change the choices I’ve made or the moments I’ve shared with people. If I wished for that, I wouldn’t be me. I wouldn’t be able to appreciate and truly cherish what I have now. So instead of regretting the past, I celebrate it. Because without my past, I wouldn’t in the very moment that I am now.

So have a listen, I hope you get the same sense of strength from “A Little Bit Stronger” that I have!

Happy Monday!

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Bit of Happy #103: Home Is Where The Heart Is

17 Feb

“A smile is a light in the window of the soul indicating that the heart is at home.”
-Anonymous

Is this not one of the sweetest quotes you’ve ever read!? I literally found this a few seconds ago, and I know it’s definitely one that I’ll carry with me throughout the rest of my life.

To me, this quote breathes. Through the words, it comes alive. There’s truth. Purity. Happiness.

By opening the window to your soul, you let others into your heart, and in this quote, a smile is a great place to begin that journey.

I find there are moments in life that can certainly be discouraging. Moments when you may find it difficult to leave the window to your soul open. Moments when you get hurt or are forced to endure some type of hardship… and because of that experience, you may allow that window to close. You may shut yourself off from the world. From the people you love. From the things that make you happy. Because of that obstacle, you find yourself putting off living. Locking the window to your heart.

And this process is very much a part of life. I think it’s impossible for someone to leave the window to their heart open all the time. Especially after being hurt. It’s our way of protection. Our way of defense. I think we should allow that guard to go up, but only for a certain amount of time. Only until we can build up the strength to open the window and let the light in again.

And the best way to start… is with a smile.

Bit of Happy #59: A Tempting Wish Come True

3 Dec

“If I could wish for my life to be perfect, it would be tempting, but I would have to decline, for life would no longer teach me anything.”
-Allyson Jones

Happy Friday everyone! It’s been a long week, but a very productive one – I must admit. When I first came across this quote, it brought up an interesting question. Made me sit and think for a little while. Reflect.

If given the chance would I wish for my life to be perfect? And honestly, I don’t think my answer would be much different from Allyson’s. By leading a perfect life, there would be no room for error, no room for growth. You would make no mistakes, and you wouldn’t be able to learn from them.

Without challenges and hardships, how can one truly appreciate times of happiness? I find that when I endure and overcome the burdens and difficulties life tests me with, I learn to value all of the love and support I have along the way – more so than if life was a piece of cake.

And then you may ask, why are we even talking about this? It’s impossible to have a perfect life anyway; it will always have its challenges. And you know what, I can’t argue with you. You’re 100% correct. Life will never and can never be perfect – free of hardships, pessimism, injustices. But… yes, believe it or not there is a but

Despite the fact that it’s an invalid question, it isn’t necessarily a worthless thought. This type of reflection can make us realize what we have in life, the things we appreciate and the people who we love the most. Asking ourselves this question can even help us find a new appreciation for the challenges and hardships that life may throw our way.

And you may ask… why would someone ever want  bad things to happen in life? The answer I can offer is this… out from the difficulties we face, we learn. We grow. We appreciate. We find gratefulness. We may care deeper and love stronger. And to me, these realizations make this quote worthwhile and the question worth asking.

What would you do if faced with the opportunity to live out a perfect life? What would you choose?

Bit of Happy #21: Have you ever fallen in love?

12 Oct

My great grandmother, G.G.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, love is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with truth. It hears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”
– 1 Corinthians 13

On Sunday night, we had a bunch of family over to visit with Amanda while she was home from college for her mini-fall break. After dinner, most of the family was outside, but around the dining room table sat my sister, her new college friend, Margot, my great grandmother, G.G., and I. My great grandmother was born in 1913 and has some incredible stories from her childhood to her adult years. Margot, who doesn’t have any family members over the age of 60, was in awe over G.G.’s experiences and hardships. I had already heard most of the stories she was telling on Sunday night, but I can honestly say that I never get tired of hearing them over and over again.

But it was one thing she said that night that really struck me. That turned my world upside-down. That either destroyed my hopes or encouraged me even more to find what I’ve been looking for in life. (I haven’t decided which one yet.)

G.G. told us briefly about her childhood, but elaborated more on when she was a teenager. About how she got pregnant and married her son’s father soon after. Her husband began running around with another woman and when she found out about it, she had him sent to fight in World War II. (Yeah, she was a feisty thing.)

Meanwhile, she met a man from work that she grew close to while her husband was away at war. He confessed his love for her, but she knew she was a married woman, and her first priority was her son. She knew her son loved his father and said, “Every child deserves to be with their father.” So she told us that she could never run off with the man from work – that her place was at home. Whether she truly loved him, she’d never know.

Even once her husband returned from the army, back into her arms, the man from work would show up drunk to their house and sit out on her doorstep until morning. G.G. said she never had the courage to face him and would always make her husband go out and tell him to go home. G.G. recited her husband’s words, “Come on, buddy. It’s time to go home.” The man from work would startle from his drunken sleep and slowly walk himself home.

At this point, I looked over at Margot. Thick tears had rimmed her eyes ready to spill over as she clung to every word G.G. said. “Have you ever fallen in love?” she asked.

It was G.G’s response that reached me to the core of my soul.

“You know, I’m really not sure. I’m not sure that I’ve ever been in love – even after all this time.”

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After 97 years of life and with a response like that… Is it supposed to inspire me to go out and never give up on finding love? Or should it discourage my hopes in one day falling for someone who can give me the same love in return? By lowering my hopes, will it save me from being let down?

Sometimes I find myself wishing I could watch her go through life. Be there through her experiences. See the world the way it once was. Back when the ice man would come and bring her a block of ice to keep her refrigerator cold. Or when the first radio and television set came out. Back when things were simple. Easy.

Everyone says back then things were much simpler. But after hearing some of her stories – I second guess that statement. She has been through a lot in her life. Things that I’ll probably never know or find out. But when she revealed to us that she felt as though she’d never been in love… I think all of our hearts crushed a little. For her. For the future.

I hope I never give up on love – not until the day I die. More than anything else, I want to learn and experience what it is like to love someone unconditionally. I look at today’s quote and wonder, as humans, if that type of love is even attainable, or if it is just something to strive for. Either way, I want to go through this life with someone else, someone special. It’s an unclear, difficult path to maneuver  through- life is. Sometimes you never know which way to go, who to trust, what choices will become mistakes, and what will come next. But I don’t ever want to lose hope in the future because that’s all we have to look forward to in love. What is to come.

And for those of you who have already found love… Never take it for granted. Live every day as full and as well as you can with that person. Take life and experience all that you can. And look to this quote for guidance in times of weakness. In times of difficulty. In times of doubt. You’re a lucky one. Always keep that in mind.

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