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Bit of Happy #146: Love More

19 Apr

“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”
-Swedish Proverb

Each day, a coworker of mine sends out a quote to many of her friends and family… and ME!!! (since she knows how much I LOVE quotes). She actually shared this one today, and it brought a smile to my face this morning in the moments I read it. With my reaction, it gave me a great idea! And you know what that great idea was!? Bet you’ll never guess!!!


The Swedish Proverb is gentle in its guidance but shows all of the great things that can come out of a positive attitude. Wake up each morning with a smile. With hope.

Savor each moment your given and take the time to actually embrace them fully. Focus on the positive and rise up with strength in times of doubt or weakness.

Speak, but share your thoughts after thinking about them. Choose your words wisely, instead of speaking from the tip of your tongue.

And finally, love. Love everything around you. Show kindness towards others. Show care and tenderness towards nature. And by doing each of these things every day air fills your lungs, all good things will be yours.


Bit of Happy #126: You Owe Me!

22 Mar

“Even after all this time, the sun never said to the Earth, ‘You owe me.’ Look what happens with a love like that; it lights the whole sky.”
-Hafiz, a Persian Poet of the 1300′s

The sun has kept the Earth warm and prospering for centuries – long before we ever existed. For millions and billions of years, the sun has never asked for anything in return. The Persian poet personifies this solar relationship with an unconditional love. ‘It lights the whole sky’ – this part of today’s quote gives love such a magical feel. And truly, I believe that love really does hold that beautiful quality.

I imagine love to light your whole world. Brighten your spirits. Prevail through fear and hardships. Instill hope and well-being in your soul. I believe love can be as magical as when the sun lights the whole sky at dawn.

Bit of Happy #89: The Opposite Of Life

28 Jan

“Death is not the opposite of life. It is a part of life. A part we’ve not yet explored, and it is only natural to fear what we do not understand. But with the right attitude, we can make life beautiful. With this same attitude, can death not be the same?”

It’s hard for me to find the right words to say to even begin a discussion about this quote. I don’t even know why it’s so difficult. The only reason I can put into words is that I simply can’t imagine anything more beautiful than life – it’s a whirl of experiences, growth and emotions. It’s like a wave of events that stir up a sea of different outcomes. It’s challenging, hopeful, disappointing, celebratory, sorrowful, promising. If we knew how our lives would turn out in the end, where would there be room for excitement? Opportunity? Choice? Possibility? Would we even be able to give meaning to those words?

And I know that everything I am saying right now points a million and five arrows at… what lies in the unknown in relation to death is a positive thing. But, unfortunately, I can’t say that. I struggle with the thought of one day leaving this world and all of the people I love who are in it. So much so, that I often keep my mind away from the entire concept of death. Of the unknown.

Instead, I choose to focus on the positive and living every day to its absolute fullest, in the best way I know how. So when the day comes that the inevitable happens… when the day comes that I dip into the unknown… when the day comes that I leave this world, I will, at the very least, be able to say I did everything I could. That I made every effort to make the lives of others better. That I took chances. That I made mistakes. That I escaped with no regrets. That I loved unconditionally…

Wow, I really wasn’t expecting such a heavy topic for a Friday. I feel like this is a mid-week type of post. Then again, when you are on the topic of death, what do you expect? But you know me, we can certainly turn this into a positive thing one way or another. And I bet you are wondering how in the world do I like this quote with all that I’ve said so far?! Well, SURPRISE! I do. I like this quote because it makes me think. It challenges me. Makes me incredibly uncomfortable. It pushes me out on a limb and forces me to make a choice. Or, at least, begin to work towards one… Gee, that doesn’t sound like such a great thing after all. But you know what, it is. It’ll press me to my limits. Perhaps even break me. But in the end, you know what it’ll do? It’ll make me stronger.

Will I ever be able to see death as a beautiful thing? As something positive? As a reason to find optimism? I think if I can get myself to a point where I agree that death is a part of life, and not life’s end, I believe I could possibly see it as something beautiful. Will I ever be able to adopt this type of mindset? That’s as unknown as the topic at hand…

And with all of that said.. I don’t know what else to say, because I sure said a lot, and I feel like it’s kind of a jumbled mess of words. I feel like I normally have a little more organization to my entries. I don’t even know if it’ll be comprehensible by another human being. So, good luck! But I would love to hear your thoughts on how this quote makes you feel! Perhaps you can make more sense of it than I can. Hopefully it inspires thought and question, and maybe even some comfort in the very possibility that there is beauty in one day leaving everything we know.

Bit of Happy #69: There’s Always A Way

17 Dec

Little Snowman Ornament
(I just thought he was adorable!)

“When faced with a challenge, look for a way, not a way out.”
-David Weatherford

I know the photograph of the snowman is a day late considering we got all of our snow yesterday, but I’m sure there’s still snow coming down somewhere where someone will see this post! So in which case, this snowman is for you! And as for everyone else, here’s to hoping for more snow soon! (Minus the new worry of having to get to and from work safely.) But not even that can change my love for watching the snow fall!

Anyway, now for today’s quote! The sense of positivity in light of being faced with challenges is certainly a new, sometimes difficult concept to adopt. A lot of the time, we shy away from obstacles, whether in fear of failure or the unknown. But instead of avoiding those fears, Weatherford encourages us to do the opposite. Find a way. Face the unknown.

When going through your day, keep this quote in mind. Try overcoming the given challenge and don’t give up until you’ve found the right path. It may take a few times to find the way, but once you have, you’ll be stronger, wiser and better off. As long as you don’t run the other way, as long as you don’t find a way out of facing the challenge, you will learn. You will progress. You will grow. Even if you fail the first time, you pick yourself up and try again. Until you find the way, you never give up. And isn’t that what life’s all about?

I came across this quote yesterday and felt that it was just too good not to share on Little Bits of Happy. I hope all of you have a great and safe weekend! Happy Friday! Happy Holidays!

Christmas Countdown: 8 more days!

Bit of Happy #42: Let It Shine

10 Nov

Tracy, a coworker of mine, was nice enough to share one of her many favorite quotes with us. There are different versions of this quote, so I went with the one she submitted to me by Nelson Mandela. Tracy is an outgoing, full-of-life and passionate mother who is looking to ‘recycle her twenties’ – meaning going out there and living the experiences that she hasn’t gotten around to experiencing. From learning a new language to gambling in Vegas, you can follow Tracy on her amazing journey through her new blog, The Tracy Experiment. It’s a new beginning for her, a fresh start, a new chapter on life that she has yet to write. Travel with her through every step of the way in a fun loving and adventurous writing style. Don’t miss out on this great read!

The morning sun melting away the night’s frost.

Interestingly enough, I’d come across this quote one night while watching the tail end of ‘Coach Carter.’ I was so intrigued by this quote that I Googled it after the movie ended. I think that’s where the different versions come into play. Regardless, the meaning still shines through like sun’s rays slicing through evening clouds. And that is this…

Everyone is different. An individual. Two people may certainly be alike, but never identical. And because of this individuality, we each have different strengths – powers beyond measure. You are your biggest threat to reaching success. Your fears are your biggest doubt keeping you from enlightenment. Only you hold yourself back. And with this knowledge, what now will you do?

Shine! That’s what you’ll do. Shine with all your might. All your strength. Let all of your talents break through the clouds and shine on everyone around you. Don’t hide who you are. Take pride in your strengths and use them to serve the world around you. Your determination to be the best person you can be will not place condescending shadows on others, but instead will encourage them to do the same – shine! If the whole world brought out the best in others and in return, themselves, think where we could be today…

Powerful beyond measure.

Bit of Happy #3: Getting Through the Regret

16 Sep

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”
-Carl Bard

I know what it’s like wanting to go back in time.. wanting to redo even years at a time. Things could have been so different if I had just…

But that’s not what life is about. We must live in the present – go from this day forward. I’m not saying to forget the past – remember it, learn from it… but move forward from it. So many of us get stuck in the past, so deep that we miss opportunities in the present. And instead of living in an optimistic future, we stumble – too busy looking back.

Bard says it all in a single sentence. Let’s face it, you can’t go back and start from the beginning (until someone creates a successful time machine). It’s impossible. But something you can do – you and anyone else… You can start from today, this very moment, and open your heart to the possibilities of the future.

What are your stories? Have you ever found yourself living in the past? Wishing you could change a choice you made?

What did you do to move forward? Or better yet, what has this post inspired you to do to move forward?

My Story…

When I was younger, I was very shy, kinda’ (okay, okay… VERY) nerdy, and I didn’t really talk to anyone in school. I wasn’t involved in any clubs or sports – I’d gotten cut from the soccer team right before school started my freshmen year. I got made fun of – not to the extent of being thrown into lockers, but I was far from prom queen. At home, I was my normal goofy self – happy and outgoing.

Something about school just zipped my mouth and the key had a very good hiding place. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t just open my mouth. Was it fear? Was it a lack of confidence? Was it out of my comfort zone?

My past was consumed in silence…

I’ll never forget the morning of the first day of tryouts for Field Hockey. I had no idea what I was doing or how to play the game (not even that you couldn’t hit the ball with both sides of the stick). I remember sitting in the car with my mom, butterflies nauseating my stomach.

“I can’t do this. I can’t do this,” I said, my heart running a marathon.

“You don’t have to do this. But I know you can,” my mom said, ever encouragingly.

I’ll tell you this, I don’t know what made me get out of that car – whether it was the leap of faith that I was talking about in an earlier post, or the mere thought of ‘what do I have to lose?’

So I learned quickly and had a sort of natural talent for the sport. I managed to make the cuts.. I made the Varsity Field Hockey team. I couldn’t believe it – my life was about to change, and I had no idea what was in store for me.

The senior Field Hockey girls brought me under their wing and taught me everything I needed to know. They taught me what confidence was. They taught what it was like to have a close circle of friends. They taught me not to fear the unknown, but rather embrace it. To take the risk. To take the chance. To step out of the past that was swallowing me up and move forward with the ‘me’ that I wanted to be.

Sometimes I think about what my life could have been like if I hadn’t gotten out of the car that morning…

Letting my past get the better of me for all those years is something I can say I truly regret. But I’m proud of myself for having the courage to step out of the darkness and into the light of the present.

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