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Bit of Happy #148: Together Forever

21 Apr

“We have been friends together in sunshine and in shade.”
-Anonymous

The type of friendship that we all search and long for. Reliability. Strength. Trust. Honesty. A friendship that will uphold through the thick and thin, in the sunshine and shade. That no matter what life brings, no matter what the obstacle or challenge at hand, two true friends will walk together.

Not only does today’s quote suggest this wonderful, “picture-perfect” friendship, but the author also hints towards it being possible (which is one of my favorite parts!). That, in spoken words, it has come true. That an unbreakable bond can be formed between two people throughout life. That compassion and selflessness can shine through despite the crazy ride our lives tend to lead.

And it’s the unpredictable future, the inevitable unknown that truly proves the strength of a friendship. Puts every aspect to the test. There is no doubt that relationships go through ups and downs – bend just before the point of breaking. Despite this struggle, it’s the willingness to fight for the other that will pull both of you through. That will bring your friendship out of the shade and back into the sun.

And the best part, that time of trial will have mostly likely made that bond stronger, richer… more full. You may have learned something new about the other person, or your relationship with them. You may have revealed a new depth of yourself and can now better understand the meaning of trust. You may have proven your confidence and faithfulness to the friendship in a time of doubt.

Always remember… when you find a friendship like the one described in today’s quote, treasure it like gold. Be willing to give it all of the nurture and effort it requires. Hold on tight because the ride along the way can be full of dips and sharp turns. Whether you’re in the shade or basking in the sunshine, hopefully when you look over at that special person, you can smile. You can smile and know that as long as they are at your side, everything will be just fine.

Do you have a friend like this in your life? What are some challenges you have faced along the way?

Bit of Happy #109: Just Right

25 Feb

“Sometimes someone says something really small, and it just fits right into this empty place in your heart.”
-Winnie Holzman

Have you ever experienced those moments in life when someone says something to you, and it’s exactly what you needed to hear in that moment? Sometimes I feel like there are angels on Earth that come and rescue me in my times of need. Who know all the right things to say to give me the hope and strength I need to carry on. And I love nothing more than to be able to return the same clarity to the people I care about most, and even strangers.

Give more than you take. And help more than need. If the world focused a little more on ‘give’ and ‘help’ and a little less on ‘take’ and ‘want,’ I think we would have a more gracious life with a much brighter future. Like the sun’s rays sifting through the pine trees, a compliment, words of advice or a kind gesture has the power to fill the empty place in someone’s heart. It has the power to bring hope, joy and reassurance in their time of doubt or hardship.

Kind words can be an irreplaceable gift. And sometimes those words are all a person needs to find their inner strength – their drive to keep fighting. To keep breathing. To keep living. To me, there’s no better sense of success than helping people find the light that was always there to begin with. I live for those moments.

Did today’s quote inspire you to reach out to others?

Has someone ever said the perfect thing just when you needed to hear it?

Bit of Happy #90: Stand

31 Jan

“Stand”
by Rascal Flatts

All of us know what it’s like to feel alone. Helpless. Vulnerable. “Like a candle in a hurricane. Just like a picture with a broken frame.” Life comes with a lot of uncertainty. The unknown can be very overwhelming. One minute your traveling along a newly paved road, and the next you find yourself taking twists and turns down a beaten path with no end in sight. “Stand” by Rascal Flatts recognizes those bumps in the road, but also shows the strength and patience people have to find the next right turn.

“Because when push comes to shove,
You taste what you’re made of.
You might bend ’til you break,
Because it’s all you can take.

On your knees you look up,
Decide you’ve had enough.
You get mad, you get strong.
Wipe your hands, shake it off,
Then you stand.”

 

I had a hard time finding the song I wanted to share this week, but the moment I skimmed over “Stand” in my iTunes playlist, there was no question. The lyrics are pure and real. Like the sunlight through a dusty window, this song shines truth and strength, overpowering the uncertainty that life sometimes leads.

Life’s like a novel,
With the end ripped out.
The edge of a canyon,
With only one way down.

Take what you’re given,
Before its gone.
Start holding on,
Keep holding on.”

It expresses the fight and determination. The hope and appreciation. We all have it inside of us. Burning inside of us. Sometimes it’s not always easy to find, but once our search crosses paths with that passion, we never give up. We uncover a new direction. And we don’t stop until we are back up on our own two feet. This song has never failed to give me the inspiration I need to keep fighting when things get tough, and I hope it can do the same for you!

Happy Monday!

Bit of Happy #28: A Bit Of Hope

21 Oct

“Some days, there won’t be a song in your heart. Sing anyway.”
-Emory Austin

At the beginning of October, I was working on a Breast Cancer Awareness Month campaign at work, and it had me thinking that I should dedicate a special entry to all of those who have had to endure the hardship of breast cancer – whether it was a friend, family member, or you. Cancer is a scary thing. In moments, your world can be turned upside down, and before you know it, you could very well be fighting for your life, or helping a loved one fight for theirs.

It has been over a year now since my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Fortunately, it was caught at an early stage, and she is now in remission. But I’ll never – not for one second – forget that sickening feeling wash over my entire body when I found out…

A few weeks prior, my mom told me she went to have a mammogram and that the results came back unclear, so she had to go back for more testing. She said it was probably nothing to worry about and that it has happened to her before, but she just wanted me to know. I felt a pang of worry, but in the coming weeks while waiting for the new results, the worry faded away.

One night, she came over to my dorm apartment (I was still in college at the time) to drop off a few things, and she came in and sat down on my bed. I was chatting away, putting away clothes that I’d just gotten out of the dryer – not really paying any attention. But as I was hanging something in my closet, all of a sudden, it hit me. I dropped whatever was in my hands in that moment and turned to look at her. I could suddenly sense all of her fear, all of her sadness, all of her anxiety. Neither of us said a word. There was no need to. The room, in a matter of moments, felt heavy and dark. Hopeless. We just looked at each other as our eyes filled with tears. I didn’t even realize the steps I’d taken to close the gap between us. I still don’t know if I held her, or if she held me.

Seeing that fleck of terror in her eyes, even if only for a few moments, I felt all of my walls begin to tumble down. My mom has always been strong, courageous and incredibly positive. Even the slightest possibility of living the rest of my life without my mother, my support, my everything… it was a daunting concept to even allow pass through my mind. What would I do without her? It was one of the most terrifying moments in my life. I felt completely and utterly helpless.

And it was that very feeling that not only me, but so many of us have had to endure because of breast cancer, some other type of illness or just any situation leading to the realization that, I or someone I love could die from this. But just like this quote, some days aren’t happy ones, some days you wonder if you have anything left to give, some days you have no hope left for a bright future. And it is those days that this quote is asking you to sing anyway, find the strength anyway, give anyway, hope anyway… Fight. Until your last breath, sing even without the song in your heart.

So, here’s to Breast Cancer Awareness Month and finding the cure to save future generations. Here’s to all of the survivors and families who have beat breast cancer. Here’s to all of the donations and charity events going towards finding a cure. And most importantly, I mean this with my entire heart, here’s to those who have suffered loss to breast cancer. May you always keep them safe in your heart and mind and live your lives as full as possible – just as they would have wanted.

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Bit of Happy #23: Every Sixty Seconds

14 Oct

“As we grow up, we learn that even one person who wasn’t supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken more than once, and it’s harder ever time. You’ll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll fight with your best friend. You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did. You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you love. So, take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love as though you’ve never been hurt, because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back.”
-Anonymous

I love the realness portrayed in this quote. The messiness. The bumps and hurdles. The high points and cherished moments. The optimism. This quote is much like real life and everything that it embraces. As your eyes skim across the lines, it kind of takes you on a rollercoaster ride of happy and sad moments – much like life does.

You can never predict what path your life will lead. The moment you think you have it all figured out, everything goes askew. The moment you think you have nothing left, something inside you finds the strength to get to tomorrow.

No relationship is perfect. There will be arguments. Doubts. Misunderstandings. Uncertainties. Putting your heart out there is risking it to be broken. But when you find a good, strong person, I believe, you should “love as though you’ve never been hurt.” Or at least that’s what I thought until…

I was talking to a friend the other day about “blaming a new love for things an old one did,” and whether it is okay to do that. I argued that I try to clear my mind and open my heart the same way I would to the first person I ever chose to get close to. Basically to: “love as though you’ve never been hurt.” And I didn’t make this argument because this quote said to, but because I’m not sure I necessarily agree that you should keep yourself guarded from a great person, inside and out, (if he or she actually happens to be that way) because of what the last jerk did.

On the other hand, my friend argued that you have to ‘blame’ a ‘new love’ for things the last one did to protect yourself. He said that putting yourself out there with no guard is asking to have your heart broken. He said that your first priority should always be yourself, and if he or she is really worth it, they will be patient enough and stand by you as those walls slowly come down. And to that, I think he truly has a point.

Though, I’m still undecided on whether it is wrong to assemble a fit army and build a drawbridge over a moat full of hungry alligators around your castle just because your last love let you down. I’m still undecided if it is wrong to then expect the next knight to jump over those hurdles, just to get close to you. But, I’ll tell you one thing… I’m seriously considering grabbing a shovel and starting to dig.

There’s so much more you can take from this quote. One of the best points made in this quote is in the very last line: “So, take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love as though you’ve never been hurt, because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back.” What do you think?


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