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Bit of Happy #145: The Call

18 Apr

“The Call”
by Matt Kennon

When I first heard today’s song about a year ago, it moved me – practically brought me to tears. I thought about it the other day and couldn’t remember what it was called or who it was by. But one thing I could never forget is its message. “The Call” by Matt Kennon shares two incredible stories about the effect we can have on each others’ lives – on our loved ones, friends, family and possibly even strangers. Our words of kindness and courage can really mean a lot to someone in need; perhaps more than we will ever know.

Take a moment to listen to today’s Music Quote Monday, and the music video is pretty good too. Though it is a little sad, it is mostly happy in its conclusion, and I think it’s impossible to be disappointed with its underlying message:

“If someone you know is weighing on your mind,
And needs a friend on the other end of the line,
Don’t hesitate what you say may seem so small.
But who knows,
They might be glad you called.

So, make the call.”

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Bit of Happy #138: A Gift With No Cost

7 Apr

“A smile costs nothing but gives much. It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it. Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as no one needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.”
-Anonymous

I found a handful of quotes about the influence of a smile sometime last week. Not that a smile overload would be a bad thing, but I’ve been trying to spread out these new quotes with the others that I have.

Today’s quote, author unknown, was by far one of my favorites of the bunch. The entire thing as a whole brings so much positivity and light to what a smile can do for you… and what it can do for others. And the best part, it’s free! Free and requiring little time and effort, smiling tends to be contagious. We tend to experience happiness out from others’ happiness. Such a small gesture can brighten someone’s day – whether they are your best friend, your parent or a complete stranger.

“It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.” This part, this very sentence is what really tugged at my heart. It touched the very core of my soul. This is the line that made my thoughts drift to the ones I love, picturing each of them with a smile on their face. Cheesy perhaps, but just those memories of each one of them brought – well, what would you know – a smile to my face!

Give away your smiles and collect the ones that are given back to you. You never know when someone you know, or you yourself, may need to bring out that memory on a rainy day. It is the happiest moments that get us through the difficult times. It is the happiest moments that give us a reason to stay strong. It is the happiest moments that remind us why life is worth living.

“Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as no one needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.So, give others a reason to remember to smile. Give them a reason to find happiness in their life. Give them a reason to live each moment to the absolute fullest. And you can do all of these things simply with a smile.

Bit of Happy #123: Touches Your Heart

17 Mar

“A friend is someone who reaches for your hand but touches your heart.”
-Anon

The true definition of a friendship – “someone who reaches for your hand but touches your heart.” Today’s quote by Anon is one that I will forever hold on to for the rest of my life. Only having found it a few days ago, it is already one that has found a precious place in my heart.

There is no better way to reach the heart of another than being a friend. I think of my friends as my little miracles. The strength I need to get back up after falling down. The soft smile that takes over, even when my eyes are filled with tears. The reassurance when my world seems to be breaking into pieces. The light and guidance through times of doubt and hardship.

My friends truly are a splash of color in a world of gray. A soft place for weary bones, and the push to put the pieces back together and try again. Without them, I think of times in my life that I don’t know if I would have made it through. They are every hope, every wish, every thought, every bit of encouragement I need for me to be the best person I can be, to try my absolute hardest at reaching my dreams and never stop believing in myself. And even when that last one begins to teeter towards the darkness, they are always there to believe in me. Sometimes, that’s all you need – they reach for your hand but touch your heart.

Bit of Happy #39: Be Brave

5 Nov

“The brave don’t live forever, but the cautious never live at all.”
-Timothy Luce

The other night I was talking to a friend of mine who I hadn’t seen or talked to in months. It felt like forever since I’d spoken with him last, and at the same time, like I’d just left his college dorm room and gone up the two flights of stairs back to mine. Anyway, we were both very hesitant about meeting each other because of… well, because of the way things were left between us, and because of the unknown that lies ahead. If you want to catch up on the back story, I explain a bit of it in Bit of Happy #8: Free Yourself.

Once best friends, we were now searching for a way to get back to that point – back to our ‘norm’ before the mess of whatever it was that we ‘tried.’ And being completely honest, the last thing I thought when I agreed to meet with him was that it would be completely effortless. Just like it had been before we took the leap into what ended up being an awkward, hurtful dating… I don’t even know the word for it.

The point of explaining all of this was the topic of conversation. I’ve recently been faced with a good deal of heartache. I know I haven’t mentioned it, but in case you couldn’t tell, I like to try to focus on all of the amazing things I have in life. Not necessarily what is no longer there. Each moment I spent unhappy is a moment I”ll never get back to change into a happy one, so I try to stay as positive as I can and allow the negative to fade away. Trust me, I know that can be difficult. But I believe it’s truly important to focus on the good and get the most out of what life brings you.

Anyway, he listened to everything I was willing to share about Not-So-Prince-Charming – just like old times. We were always there for each other through all of the messy dating dramas – what you commonly find in your early twenties. It was good to have him there – to have him back.

He always told me how brave I was. I don’t know if I ever really believed him when he would say it. Though, it’s always encouraging to know someone believes in you. Even if it’s only one. And in this situation, it was no different. He told me how much he admired my bravery in the way I look at life. So passionately. So fully. So innocently. The way I put my heart out there over and over with little regard to what has happened in the past. The way I refuse to allow the hurt of the last relationship to affect the new one. The way I choose to love through an open heart and mind.

“You’re one of the strongest people I know, Steph. I have no doubt that you’ll be fine given a little more time,” he said. “Just keep your chin up.”

I looked in his eyes in that moment and saw all the answers. He was right. I would be fine. He was right. With time and a little hope, I would make it through this heartache. He was right. This past relationship will not stop me from trying again. He and this quote made me realize that I was not going to live cautiously, but rather face my heartache, allow the bruises to heal, patch up the holes, and with time, I would try again. I may not live longer, but I’ll surely live a life with less regret.

Bit of Happy #36: Make Mistakes

2 Nov

Reese, a close friend of mine, claims not to be much of a writer, so he left it open for me to write most of the entry. However, he did add in his two cents, and what the quote meant to him personally. Thanks again for submitting a quote, Reese. Means the world!

Reese and I when he was visiting from Australia

“I just reckon it’s a good thought. It’s okay to make mistakes, but we need to learn from them. Mistakes lead us to greater experience in life. Life shouldn’t be spent wrapped in the safety of the known. We need to push into the unknown, enjoy it and learn a thing or two.”

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Easy going and adventurous, Reese is one of those people that I will forever hold close to my heart. There aren’t enough words in the world to say about him. He and I met when he was visiting the States (as he would say) for a cousin’s wedding. He was only in for a few more days after we first met, and there was no way I was falling for a guy who lived on the other side of the world. He left with a twinge of heartache – not knowing the next time he’d see me. I, on the other hand, had protected my heart against any type of butterflies I could possibly feel for him – or so I thought.

Long story short, he slowly reeled me in. We grew close – from friendship to a little more. We talked through email and on Skype all the time. That was pretty much all I had – we had. I found so much passion about life and travel in his eyes. He would tell me story after story about living in Australia and what it was like – he still does. I had stars in my eyes. Before I knew it, I was in deeper than I every wanted to be. He was coming back the following summer for another wedding, but that was a year away!

He was always encouraging me to try new things and not live in fear of making mistakes. He was always outside, going on ridiculous adventures during his holidays. He wanted me on a plane to Australia as soon as I had the money. I even looked into studying abroad a semester, but I wouldn’t have been able to graduate on time. So, we left things open. The only fair thing to do. Neither of us wanted the other to miss out on opportunities with other people. We were both in agreement that if someone came along, we wanted to let the other explore that chance. At the same time, there was a part of me that didn’t want someone else to come along.

We were each others’ comfort, and at the same time, our long distance relationship made us feel even more lonely at times. We would sit on Skype and wish somehow one of us could be on the other side of the computer screen. Just to touch his face, hold his hand, hug him, kiss him… The experience certainly made me realize that I would never take the little things for granted in any relationship that may bud in the future.

Do I regret the time I spent with him? Not for one second.
Do I regret giving him a piece of my heart? Not for one second.
Do I regret waiting for him to come back the following summer? Not for one second.

Those few weeks were some of the best days of my life. Days that I wouldn’t trade for anything. Memories that will last forever. I felt so alive. He got me to try things I would never dream about doing. He brought out the spontaneous, carefree side of me – the best side of me. Before he came the following summer, I contemplated even seeing him. I was afraid I’d fall in love with him and bury a deep, dark hole when it came time for him to leave. But I took that chance. I risked making that mistake.

Was it hard having him leave? Yes. It was one of the most difficult good-byes I’ve ever had to say (well, not good-bye – see ya). I never say good-bye. If there’s one phrase I hate, it’s that.

Anyway, the point is… I tried something new. I took a chance that I was hesitant to take, and he ended up bringing out the best in me. And when it came time for him to leave and go back to Australia, our relationship was so free and happy that not even him going back to the other side of the world was going to squander that. Not to mention, I think a big part of me not grabbing a shovel and starting the dig to my deep, dark hole was the fact that it was our norm. Being apart was our norm. As much as we hated to admit it, as much as we cherished every moment we could spend together… we both knew that he belonged in Australia. And I belonged here.

The distance is ultimately what made us separate enough that we could remain close friends, while living out the lives we were meant to without holding back. It was difficult, but gradual. It was necessary. I didn’t want to take him out of Australia as much as I knew I couldn’t leave the States. So, there was only one mature and logical thing that we could do. The only problem was… hearts are blind to things realistic. My heart will always have a special place for him. My mind will always have a tiny thought of ‘What if things were different…’

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I wasn’t surprised for a moment when I read the quote Reese chose to share. It shows so much about him in just a short phrase. He’s a great person with the whole world reflecting in his eyes. He’s someone I’m sure I’ll mention again and share more stories about because some of my happiest and best moments were spent while with him. Some of my greatest times of growth were spent while with him. Some of the biggest realizations and dreams of life were recognized while with him. And even now that we’ve taken the level of a friendship, he still has the power to make me smile no matter what the circumstances. No matter what the stress. No matter what new boy I’m crying over. No matter what the obstacle or challenge I’m facing. He encourages me to get up every morning with a smile on my face and the optimism to try something new. And even though you never know when that chance may surely turn into a mistake, it could also very well turn into something quite perfect.



Bit of Happy #32: Carry Him With You

27 Oct

Khristine stumbled upon this quote while reading The Last Song by Nicholas Sparks. She felt it could shed some spiritual light on my blog and personally found it optimistic in a time of hardship. Khristine did an AMAZING job sharing the following story with me and now, with all of the readers of Little Bits of Happy. It’s heart-felt, enlightening and reflective on how life can seem to be falling apart in the moment, but all you need is a little faith and guidance to find comfort in the truth – that there’s always room for opportunity in life. So here it is, and a special thanks goes out to Khristine for taking the time to share this. THANK YOUUUU!

Photograph submitted by Khristine, VA (Two.Toned)

“There’s one story behind this, and it’s quite interesting. I do not consider myself to be a very religious person and do not attend church every Sunday, but I do have strong faith in God. When my ex-boyfriend, Dave, ended our 3-year relationship only to find out he replaced me with one of my friends a few days later, I was devastated. I felt betrayed – not only by my boyfriend, but also by my friend who I was there for whenever she needed me. I didn’t know how to move on, and I was confused. It was a time when I just wanted to get away. In search of guidance, I found myself in front of my church. It was empty inside. No one was there. I sat on one of the pews and looked up at Christ’s body hanging on the cross. I burst into tears.

Being in that quiet church, I felt more connected with God. I usually find myself crying because of how painful it can be to live. I questioned Him: Why do bad things happen? I wanted to know why I was being forced to let go of people. I couldn’t see or hear him, but I felt him right next to me, listening quietly. In my head, I asked God: Why did it end like this? What did I do to deserve this? I am confused. Tell me what to do. Show me the right path. Please, God help me. I need help. I’m begging you. I know I don’t attend church as much as I should, but please, I need you.

I didn’t get my answers that day. Not the next day either. But after about six months, I was having the best time of my life. I found the answers to all of the questions I asked Him on that day at church – not right away and not all at once, but slowly and in many ways. I literally had to let go and allow Him to guide me to the right path. After six months, I fell in love with a guy who treated me like a queen, who swept me off my feet. I was truly lucky! God listens, and it is up to us to reach out and take His hand. His intentions will always be what is best for us.”

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Did you find Khristine’s quote and story inspirational? You can find more of her thoughts on life on her personal blog, Two.Toned.

Bit of Happy #31: Cherish, Dream, Live.

26 Oct

“Cherish yesterday.
Dream tomorrow.
Live today.”
-Richard Bach

Alright, well… I was PLANNING on writing a quality post in tonight, but because of the lovely amounts of traffic I hit on the way home, the whirlwind of making dinner and the fact that I’m meeting a friend for drinks tonight at 7:30, I have absolutely no time to do that.

Anyway, I hope you enjoy today’s quote. I’m sorry that’s all I have time for today. And unfortunately, tomorrow might night be much better (helping a friend with some design homework after work).

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