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Bit of Happy #111: More Wonderful Still

1 Mar

Today’s quote, shared by Greg, sounds the beat of a slightly different Little Bit of Happy drum. Nonetheless, it’s a great quote, and certainly one that we all can learn a little something from. And that to me makes for a ‘worthy of sharing’ quote! Despite his approach to writing on a whim – “I’m am planning to just type, not really thinking as I go” – what follows is a beautifully natural-written piece. So I’d like to thank Greg the moon, the stars and the world for taking the time to share his thoughts and opinions on this quote. I hope everyone enjoys this unique interpretation of Buechner’s quote as much as I did.

THANK YOUUUU!

“When I first read this quote, I was a bit worried that it may leave an impression to not try new things or overcome obstacles on your own. With the possible interpretation of negativity, I – at first – was afraid that this may not be a little bit of happy. But thinking now, I feel like I can spin the last bit of this quote into something inspirational and happy.

Trying to get by on your own strength in life instead of reaching out to others when you need support will make each step in life a struggle. Missing out on that growth of trusting, but the hardness that going through life alone requires will wear you out. Unfortunately, this is something I do often. I hate asking for help, and for some reason, I feel like if I am able to accomplish something on my own I will come out stronger. However, being resistant towards the love and care from others never gets anyone anywhere.

Steeling yourself against reality can also come in the form of not showing emotion. Society has ingrained in us, men especially, that showing emotion is the equivalent of showing weakness. A man who feels he has mastered his emotions also believes he has overcome all weakness and achieved strength. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Really, he is just emotionally void and cannot experience life or relationships as they are meant. Again… I am guilty of this too.

People shield themselves from the world by not giving their forgiveness. Others make mistakes. We are all human; no one is so perfect that one cannot harm someone emotionally or physically. If someone hurts you, are you really going to shut him or her out, cut off some portion of yourself to them, or just move on from them altogether? Who are you to make such a judgment when you yourself have harmed others just the same?

The commonality of all of these actions is that the person not asking for help, being apathetic, and never giving their forgiveness is the one missing out. That person is missing out on learning a solution to one of their problems, a chance to be the emotional being that we are made to be, and the chance to find resolution and a rekindled relationship. On the other hand, we can just say it like it is in the quote, you are not allowing yourself to be opened up and transformed.

Life will be far more rewarding, have far more love, and have many more strong relationships if people are able to just be who they are without trying to show they’re stronger than emotion, stronger than another person, or stronger than life itself.

This quote is most relevant when it comes to relationships with the people we love. If you cannot submit to some emotions, admit you need help, or forgive others, your relationships will not be as meaningful or as fruitful as they can be. Not only will the relationship suffer, but so will you. You will be missing out of more love, grace, humility, mercy, and companionship than you could ever imagine.

Life is not worth living as the Lone Ranger trying to save the day with his silver bullet. When you are in trouble, sound the alarm, have those you love come to your aid. Show your emotions; people want to see them. Show those that you love that you love them. Finally, forgive those who hurt you. You’re not as strong when you are own as you would be with someone loving at your side. And when you realize that, life will be… more wonderful still.

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Bit of Happy #81: To Lie or to Tell the Truth

4 Jan

“What is better – a lie that draws a smile, or a truth that draws a tear?”
-Miracle on 34th Street

Definitely a great quote for discussion, the meaning within these words can be applied to countless situations. It wasn’t too long ago that I was talking with a friend about a situation that was more or less guided by this very question.

What’s better…

…to lie and avoid causing discomfort or unhappiness to the other person?

or…

…to tell the truth and risk hurting the other person?

It’s a difficult question. One where both parts have their benefits. And their detriments. But when it comes to my views, thoughts and opinions, I mostly run with the ‘honesty is the best policy’ type of mentality. Hurting someone is never easy. Knowing you’ve caused pain or sorrow is no walk in the park either.

But we too must think about what happens when we don’t tell the truth. When we keep our thoughts and feelings hidden. What good does it do for the other person? In the short term, it may spare them some time away from hurt. But in the end, the truth will always surface. And by then, the pain brought upon the other person could be much, much worse.

I’ve come across times in my life where the truth would only bring the person harm. Where there is no foreseen benefit. No chance for positive steps in the future. Where this truth will truly only bring dark storm clouds overhead, waiting to burst. So now the question is, do they deserve to know the truth despite the weight within those words? Or should you choose to keep it from them – blanket them in warmth and safety from the reality?

Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers to all of life’s questions. And I will dare to say that there may be certain situations that are better off living a lie. There may very well be exception to the rule. The only bit of advice I can give you from here is to follow your heart. Switch positions with the other person and contemplate what fate you would want for yourself. I have faith in you. As long as you keep the best interest of others in mind, I think you’ll be on the right track to making good decisions.

Happy Tuesday!

Bit of Happy #68: Every Waking Moment

16 Dec

An old, wooden barn across the street from my house.

“Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you had these feelings, but every day and every night of your life, they are eating at you.”
-Norman Vincent Peale

Some of the best advice I’ve ever heard from a quote are in these very words. And to me, the best advice isn’t one that tells you what to do, but rather shows you the truth. Shows you the consequences. Takes the reality and shoves it out into spotlight and then allows you to choose the path that is right for you.

Normally, this is where I give you my advice, which I know tends to be more directional (in a positive way, of course). But today, I’m going to leave it up to you to choose, just as the quote has (even though that’s ultimately what you would do anyway). So, take these words for what they are. Take this quote and consider what its value holds for you.

I know forgiveness isn’t always an easy thing to achieve. And maybe it’s not even forgiveness that this quote is telling us to work towards. Maybe it’s more of an acceptance. An acceptance of what happened. An acceptance in the past becoming the past, and no longer allowing it to interfere with the future.

I have faith in you! Hopefully you too can find some truth in this quote. Hopefully you too can one day feel the freeing effects it can encourage you to achieve. This quote has certainly done that for me in more than one instance. But I’ll tell you one thing, it’s a slow process. It’s not going to happen over night, especially if you were deeply affected by it. But you’ll get there one day. You’ll be able to close your eyes, take a deep breath and allow it to escape with a sense of relief. Just have patience. Take a little step each day (even when you’ve found yourself taking a couple steps back the day before). Before you know it, you’ll see the light. Like I said, I have faith!

What does this quote mean to you? Do you feel inspired by it?

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