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Bit of Happy #108: Waking Up To Optimism

24 Feb

“Wake up every morning with the thought that something wonderful is about to happen.”
-Anonymous

Today’s photograph is a little different today. It’s actually not a photograph at all, but rather a scan of a sketch I did in high school. I just thought it was a beautiful little doodle of daffodils and would be something different to share on Little Bits of Happy.

With that said, today’s quote is like a breath of fresh air. I love the thought of waking up in the morning, rolling over, stretching my arms and legs and relaxing back into my soft mattress. And then as the first thought drifts into my mind, a small smile tugs at the corners of my lips. Something wonderful is going to happen today – the first thought. And with that optimism, I get out of bed with a little happiness in my step. Carrying that throughout the day, I await and open my mind to a miracle that is about to happen.

Whether that epiphany arises or not, the bright outlook you take on each and every morning is bound to bring positivity into all aspects of your life. It never hurts to dress with a happy thought each morning. To open a brand new day to possibility. Chance. Hope. Optimism.

What do you think of today’s quote?

Do you too believe it has the power to brighten the rest of your day? The people around you? The way you feel about yourself and where your life is going?

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Bit of Happy #107: The Turning Point

23 Feb

“The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.”
-Max Lerner

To get over the hill of this week, today’s quote by Max Lerner brings light to a new discovery and lesson in learning more about who you are and where your strength lies. In life, there are moments and experiences that we would mark as losing trust in someone we love or in other words, getting hurt. Despite that pain, there’s a part of you, no matter how small, that continues to go on past that hurt. And it’s that part of you that becomes your core strength. The strength that will outlast beyond any hurdle you are faced with.

And when you recognize that strength, that’s when you begin to learn who you are and where to go within yourself when you need the strength to press on. It’s a beautiful discovery; a new form of growth. And when a new test of strength comes along, you will have enough faith in knowing you will survive any challenge.

Bit of Happy #105: A Little Bit Stronger

21 Feb

“A Little Bit Stronger”
by Sara Evans

“And I’m done hoping that we could work it out
I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I’m done thinking that you could ever change

I know my heart will never be the same
But I’m telling myself I’ll be okay
Even on my weakest days,
I get a little bit stronger
.”

My past has presented the possibility for me to, fortunate or not, strongly relate to each lyric of this song. And on some level, I think everyone who has risked their heart for love and then was let down has. Certainly not the easiest moments of life, “A Little Bit Stronger,” by Sara Evans describes the aftermath of a breakup. From hearing songs on the radio to having to force a smile and ignore the hurt, the lyrics bleed the truth. They are real and honest. How do I know this? Because I’ve been through these lyrics, word for word.

And I’m not saying it’s a walk in the park. Because it’s not; it is far from it actually. But what I am saying is this… There are really, really, REALLY difficult times in life. Times that you believe you’ll never make it through in one piece. But when you surprise yourself and do find that strength to put the pieces back together… The moment when you turn around and a month has gone by without crying, you smile to yourself a little bit. You get ‘a little bit stronger.’

The moment you realize you need to put your foot down and stop letting him (or her) drag your heart around, you get ‘a little bit stronger.’

Once you accept that your heart may never be the same, but you’ll still be okay… you get ‘a little bit stronger.’

I especially love the lyrics: “Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger.” Each day you make it through, it’s a little bit step towards finding who you are again. It’s a little step towards living life without that person. It’s a little step towards leaving the hurt behind. Each day you get further away from the initial day of breaking up, you realize you can make it in this life without them.

And even when you don’t realize that… even when you still believe that he (or she) will change… even when you still hope that he (or she) will come running back into your arms… Even on those days, you ‘get a little bit stronger.’ You get a little bit stronger because even in moments of weakness, it is still time that passes. And with time comes healing.

In my weakest days, I never thought I would move on. In many ways, I was determined to do the opposite. I wanted to hold on for the rest of my life. But looking back on it now… going many, many days without a tear. Going many, many days without wishing he’d come back. Going many, many days without allowing him to drag my heart around. I’ve realized I’m stronger. A lot stronger. And better off.

Looking back on it now, having found someone new… someone who has showed me how I deserve to be treated… someone who smiles just to see me smile, I wouldn’t change a single moment of my past. I wouldn’t change the hurt that I’ve had to endure. I wouldn’t change the choices I’ve made or the moments I’ve shared with people. If I wished for that, I wouldn’t be me. I wouldn’t be able to appreciate and truly cherish what I have now. So instead of regretting the past, I celebrate it. Because without my past, I wouldn’t in the very moment that I am now.

So have a listen, I hope you get the same sense of strength from “A Little Bit Stronger” that I have!

Happy Monday!

Bit of Happy #103: Home Is Where The Heart Is

17 Feb

“A smile is a light in the window of the soul indicating that the heart is at home.”
-Anonymous

Is this not one of the sweetest quotes you’ve ever read!? I literally found this a few seconds ago, and I know it’s definitely one that I’ll carry with me throughout the rest of my life.

To me, this quote breathes. Through the words, it comes alive. There’s truth. Purity. Happiness.

By opening the window to your soul, you let others into your heart, and in this quote, a smile is a great place to begin that journey.

I find there are moments in life that can certainly be discouraging. Moments when you may find it difficult to leave the window to your soul open. Moments when you get hurt or are forced to endure some type of hardship… and because of that experience, you may allow that window to close. You may shut yourself off from the world. From the people you love. From the things that make you happy. Because of that obstacle, you find yourself putting off living. Locking the window to your heart.

And this process is very much a part of life. I think it’s impossible for someone to leave the window to their heart open all the time. Especially after being hurt. It’s our way of protection. Our way of defense. I think we should allow that guard to go up, but only for a certain amount of time. Only until we can build up the strength to open the window and let the light in again.

And the best way to start… is with a smile.

Bit of Happy #92: Your Eyes Tell All

2 Feb

“Our eyes are placed in front because it is more important to look ahead than to look behind.”
-Anonymous

What a perfect quote for a perfect Wednesday! This has been one of my absolute favorites for a long time. As a constant reminder to look ahead to the future, what better way than the placement of your eyes?!

Created to move forward in life, we strive to achieve great things. Everything around us is in similar progression. Nothing in life can ever move backwards. Nothing can ever retreat. Even on a battle field, there’s still a progression of time and effort – whether or not the opposing side is forcing you to physically regress.

It’s the same thing with someone’s mind. You can choose to live in your past. You can choose to build walls around your heart in protection. You can choose to allow no one in. You can choose to take no risk, no chance. But you can’t choose that the future is happening all around you. Constantly. Each second that you spend guarded is a second lost to your past.

But with if instead, you choose to allow the past to live as a memory, as a lesson? What if you choose to live in the present? What if you choose to look ahead into the future? What if you choose to focus on the positive? There are a lot of moments in life that will test your strength. Your ability to trust again after being hurt. Your determination to see the good in every situation. Your willingness to help and love others unconditionally.

Take note to the placement of your eyes. I’m not necessarily sure I believe in fate or that there is a reason for everything that happens; however, I find an incredible amount of comfort in the possibility. So with that said, this quote gives a bright outlook on life. One in which gives us reason to look forward. To find excitement in possibility. To take an optimistic approach as we walk through each and every day. And in my opinion, if a quote can do that… It’s a quote worth keeping.

Happy Wednesday!

Bit of Happy #44: The Fuel For Love

12 Nov

An old barn near my house.

“Your ability to trust fuels your ability to love.”
-Anonymous

To me, it’s amazing how so few words strung together can hold so much truth – so much meaning. It is something I’ve said for a long time now. Trust is everything in the eyes of love; without it, you are blind and with it, you can see forever and beyond.

What I love most about this quote is the word chosen – ability. Your ability. The amount of trust you can put into someone equates to or drives your ability to love another. Without it, love simply cannot exist.

The importance this quote lends to trust in reference to love, I believe, is true. So true. It’s monumental. Trust is the very foundation of love. If you build a foundation of straw, it’ll surely collapse as time goes on. If you build a relationship on lies and deception, it’ll surely disintegrate to nothing. However, the foundation that’ll last forever is the one build on trust, leading to love.

Now, where it gets interesting (well, interesting isn’t quite the right word) is when you add in all of the heartache and lies of previous relationships. Will it affect your ability to trust in something new that comes along? Will you put up a guard and try to protect yourself from getting hurt again? Is closing your ability to trust someone new the answer to keeping yourself from heartache? Without a willingness to trust another, will you find yourself alone in the end?

If you’re expecting me to answer all of these questions, then you’ve come to the wrong place. Just as much as you may want to know these answers, I think they may be different for each person. I still find myself searching for the answers to these very questions. What is right for me.

Anyway, this is what I thought about when I came across this quote. What do you think?


Bit of Happy #25: How do you want to be remembered?

18 Oct

“When you judge others, you don’t define them, you define yourself.”
-Wayne Dyer

Everyone talks. This is not a statement of conditions, it’s a fact. At some point in your life, whether big or small, often or once in a while, you have talked about another person. Words that would potentially hurt someone if those words were replayed. We all have. I have. I’ll openly admit it.

In the most recent years, I try to keep this quote in mind before I let gossip spill from my lips – words that I know I could come to regret. I consciously try every day to build my character through positivity. Though, sometimes it is difficult when a world of pessimism surrounds you. I know it’s hard when speaking with friends, family and coworkers to talk about another person, close or distant to you. But I know one thing… I don’t want to be remembered as the girl who talks about everyone behind their back, but rather the person who only has optimistic things to share about others, and life in general. I bite my tongue when I get the urge, or at least, I try my hardest. In times of weakness, I use this quote and my passion for living life and spreading that optimism to others as my guidance.

However, I’m not perfect. Definitely not perfect. FAR FROM PERFECT. I slip up. Unfortunately, I can’t really think of any stories to share where my words have brought a lot of pain to another person (well, then again, I guess that’s a good thing (but it would have made a great, gossipy entry, would it? lol)). Anyway, I try to be the clear-headed person in every situation, and never allow anger or hurt to cloud my thoughts… and so far, I feel like I’ve been pretty good at that.

From my childhood, I never really knew what it was like to be the bully. Instead, I was on the receiving end. I know what it feels like to be made fun of. I’ll never forget in 5th grade, two boys made fun of me so bad that I came home crying every day from school. Eventually my mom called the teacher and had my seat moved to the over side of the classroom. It didn’t solve the problem completely – not until they found someone new to pick on. And even though the fingers were no longer pointing at me, what about the other kid?

Being bullied by someone isn’t fun and being judged isn’t much fun either. No one truly knows the depth of hurt until they have been unfairly criticized by someone else. I’m not here to preach, but consider keeping this quote in your pocket for the next chatty day. It’ll make the world a little less gloomy, and a little bit happier.

What happy things have you shared with others about others recently?

Was there a time that you chose not to say something about someone because it wasn’t very nice? Or a time that you wish you hadn’t said certainly things about another?

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