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Bit of Happy #105: A Little Bit Stronger

21 Feb

“A Little Bit Stronger”
by Sara Evans

“And I’m done hoping that we could work it out
I’m done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I’m done thinking that you could ever change

I know my heart will never be the same
But I’m telling myself I’ll be okay
Even on my weakest days,
I get a little bit stronger
.”

My past has presented the possibility for me to, fortunate or not, strongly relate to each lyric of this song. And on some level, I think everyone who has risked their heart for love and then was let down has. Certainly not the easiest moments of life, “A Little Bit Stronger,” by Sara Evans describes the aftermath of a breakup. From hearing songs on the radio to having to force a smile and ignore the hurt, the lyrics bleed the truth. They are real and honest. How do I know this? Because I’ve been through these lyrics, word for word.

And I’m not saying it’s a walk in the park. Because it’s not; it is far from it actually. But what I am saying is this… There are really, really, REALLY difficult times in life. Times that you believe you’ll never make it through in one piece. But when you surprise yourself and do find that strength to put the pieces back together… The moment when you turn around and a month has gone by without crying, you smile to yourself a little bit. You get ‘a little bit stronger.’

The moment you realize you need to put your foot down and stop letting him (or her) drag your heart around, you get ‘a little bit stronger.’

Once you accept that your heart may never be the same, but you’ll still be okay… you get ‘a little bit stronger.’

I especially love the lyrics: “Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger.” Each day you make it through, it’s a little bit step towards finding who you are again. It’s a little step towards living life without that person. It’s a little step towards leaving the hurt behind. Each day you get further away from the initial day of breaking up, you realize you can make it in this life without them.

And even when you don’t realize that… even when you still believe that he (or she) will change… even when you still hope that he (or she) will come running back into your arms… Even on those days, you ‘get a little bit stronger.’ You get a little bit stronger because even in moments of weakness, it is still time that passes. And with time comes healing.

In my weakest days, I never thought I would move on. In many ways, I was determined to do the opposite. I wanted to hold on for the rest of my life. But looking back on it now… going many, many days without a tear. Going many, many days without wishing he’d come back. Going many, many days without allowing him to drag my heart around. I’ve realized I’m stronger. A lot stronger. And better off.

Looking back on it now, having found someone new… someone who has showed me how I deserve to be treated… someone who smiles just to see me smile, I wouldn’t change a single moment of my past. I wouldn’t change the hurt that I’ve had to endure. I wouldn’t change the choices I’ve made or the moments I’ve shared with people. If I wished for that, I wouldn’t be me. I wouldn’t be able to appreciate and truly cherish what I have now. So instead of regretting the past, I celebrate it. Because without my past, I wouldn’t in the very moment that I am now.

So have a listen, I hope you get the same sense of strength from “A Little Bit Stronger” that I have!

Happy Monday!

Bit of Happy #101: Live In The Now!

15 Feb

“Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now.”
-Denis Waitley

You’ve got to start somewhere, because if there’s no beginning to change, how do you ever expect to grow? Learn from your past, yes, but don’t live in it. By learning, you are changing. And by changing you are growing. And by growing, you are taking advantage of the present and putting your best foot forward.

Today’s quote has a lot of truth in that we only really have control over what is happening in this very moment. The past is already done – something that cannot be changed; something that is completely out of our control. The only thing we can choose to do with our past is learn from it and change how we will live our present.

And the future, well, that story is left unwritten and has yet to unfold. I can’t say, in this moment, that five years from now I will have met my soulmate, and we will get married. I have no control over when that will happen, or if it ever will happen. I believe, when it comes to looking forward to the future, it comes with a lot of hope. Why do I believe that? Honestly, there is no guarantee that I will live past tomorrow, or tonight even. I can only hope. I can only hope that I will live past tomorrow. And the next day. And the next day. And a million days after that!

But the moment in time that we do have control over is now. We can choose to set goals and learn from our past to make the best of the present moment. Whether we go forwards or backwards is completely our decision. Whether we choose to hold on to all of our wrongdoings and drown in our sorrowed memories is completely up to us. But we can also decide to live in the only moment of time over which we have any control… And that is now.

Bit of Happy #84: A Brand New Tomorrow

7 Jan

Morning Ice Storm in 2009.

“Tomorrow is the beginning of the rest of your life.”
-Trading Hearts

Happy Friday, everyone! Unfortunately, I’m not feeling too well today, but I did want to take a moment and post a quote. It’s a very optimistic approach to looking at life and the road ahead. This quote by Trading Hearts inspires me to take each day and treat it as a new beginning. I believe its words can encourage many with that extra push of hope and motivation to get out there and live life to the fullest! To put the past behind them. To go through each day with a smile. To accomplish all of the things they’ve ever dreamed of doing. To reach their passion in life.

And now it’s your turn – to treat tomorrow as your new beginning. What will you do with it?

Bit of Happy #41: Leave it up to chance?

9 Nov

Adorable little flowers I came across as I was
walking along a road near my house.

“There’s a time to let things happen, and a time to make things happen.”
– Hugh Prather

The hardest part is knowing what moments in your life call for which approach. When you should sit back and let the opportunity come to you, and when you should chase after that dream and make it happen are two completely different things. Depending upon what you’re contemplating will ultimately determine what route you should choose.

The only advice I can lend you is to follow your heart. Don’t think about it too much, and you’ll surely find your answer with time. Just be sure not to suffocate a chance that is meant to be free-spirited. If that’s even a question in your mind, take the passenger seat for a while and see what happens. Otherwise, I say go for it! There are times in life when patience is a lost opportunity.

I know it can be a difficult thing to judge, especially for certain, more delicate situations. But something that often brings me a sense of comfort in all of this is that if it is meant to happen, it will always find its way.

And on that note, I’ll leave you with a question (or a few)…

Is there something in your life you’ve been pondering on what you should do? What are some experiences that you’ve learned from in the past that you’ll do differently in the future?

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Bit of Happy #35: Leave Your Mark

1 Nov

A photograph I took for my Black & White Photography class in college.

“We are born into the world like a blank canvas, and every person that crosses our path takes up the brush and makes their mark upon our surface, so it is that we develop. But we must realize that there comes a day that we must take up the brush and finish the work. For only we can determine if we are to be just another painting or a masterpiece.”
-Javan

So uplifting and motivating. It paints a picture of the path that life travels. In the beginning – a white canvas is born. Pure. Innocent. Untouched. With each passing day, those who grow close to you will forever leave a mark on your canvas – some warm reds and yellows and others cool blues and purples. Some marks will last and go on forever and some may be abruptly severed. Some strokes will overlap with others, and may one day smooth over the underlying mark completely.

But no matter what effect others have on you – it is ultimately your choice how you live your life. It is ultimately your choice if you are strong or weak. It is ultimately your choice if you stay optimistic about the future or let the past drag down your spirits. The brush is in your hands to finish the work. Your life is in your hands to make it what you want. Live it the way you want.

So what is your choice? Will you be just another painting? Or, will you look at the marks others have left on your life and find a way to turn it into a masterpiece?

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Bit of Happy #18: The Door To My Heart

7 Oct

Chicago from the Willis Tower

“You have come into my life through a door I was afraid would never be opened again for many have slammed it on their way out. Feel free to stay as long as you like, but should the time come that you must leave, please close the door gently as you go.”
-Javan

At one point or another, everyone has experienced heart break. Whether from a relationship, family member or friend, someone has slammed the door on your heart. Unfortunately, it is a part of life. A part that many of us would say we could certainly do without. But along with heartbreak, strength later follows. Or at least, I like to think so.

As much as you want to bolt, board and nail the door to your heart closed after experiencing love and loss, you would be letting ‘lonely’ win. And the only place ‘lonely’ gets you is alone. I know it’s difficult to open up your door, your heart to someone new. Trust me, I get it. And I’m not going around saying to open your heart to anyone. But when you find a nice person, when you get to know them for who they are – their values, beliefs, personality – and you can see that they are a good person inside out, what are you waiting for?

And when you find the strength to let someone cross your threshold, find the courage to offer him or her to sit down and stay a while. I promise you won’t regret it. You must take a chance to be happy. Without risk, the reward will be minimal. Without risk, you will never truly appreciate or understand the meaning of the company of another, or whatever it is you are taking a leap of faith for. And even if one day they decide to pick up their things and leave through the door they once entered, you won’t be right back before you started. Actually, you might be worse off. (I’M KIDDING!!!!!!) But in all seriousness, it might seem like you are worse off in the beginning. Especially if you felt closer to that person than you’ve ever felt with anyone before. In the beginning, it hurts. In the beginning, it’s not easy. I’m not going to put whipped cream and a cherry on top of this one. Break ups are never something that can be covered up or smoothed over.

But what you can choose to do is learn from it. Grow stronger from it. Pick yourself back up and keep living your life as full as possible. Look back at the risk you took and be proud of it. Be proud that you refused to allow your past to impede on your happiness in the future. And live on by that very sentence. If the entire world promised to live out their life, not through their past experiences, but through embracing the bright, unknown of the future, I think there’d be a lot more happier people in the world. Life is what you make it. Change what is negative in your life, and optimism shall follow.

What did you find to be inspirational enough to try love again after a difficult heart break?


Bit of Happy #16: Forward Looking, Backward

5 Oct

“Like the change in seasons…”

“I’ve learned that things change, people change, and it doesn’t mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, it means accepting that some things weren’t meant to be. You don’t ever stop loving someone; if you do, you probably never really loved them. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what’s going to happen next. Take chances; life is no fun without them. If you screw up, at least you learned something.”
-Lisa Brooks

My life’s motto – almost exactly. My opinion and much the way I live my life is inspired by Lisa Brooks’ quote. There a many things in this quote that are worth mentioning. One – to always move forward. When living your every day, look where your life is going, not where it has been. Now, that does not mean to forget your past or try to sweep it under the rug. Recognize it, remember it, cherish it and learn from it. At the same time, don’t let it run your life. Accept, as she says, that some things simply weren’t meant to be.

The second part of Brooks’ quote recognizes the reality of life – the unknown, but shows you not to fear or run away from it, but rather, embrace it. Taking chances and making the best of any given situation will give meaning and excitement to your life. And in the end, she says that even if the chance taken leads you down the wrong path, at the very least, it is something that you can learn from. I just loved the positivity entwined with this quote. It certainly makes for an uplifting message during difficult times and break ups.

Now that you know my thoughts, what are yours? Do you like how Lisa Brooks’ quote reflects on the way of life?


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