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Bit of Happy #132: What do you see?

30 Mar

“The question is not what you look at, but what you see.”
-Henry David Thoreau

Throughout every second of every day that we spend awake, we are constantly looking at things – as we drive, when we go out for lunch, the work we do, spending time with family and friends, watching a stranger pass on the sidewalk. There are lives living all around us; ones we touch with our own presence, and others we may never come in contact with.

There are plenty of things that we look at on any given day, but what do we see? When you look at a stranger with worn clothes, holding a sign that is asking for money, what do you see? When you look at an acquaintance who is in tears though you’ve never seen cry before, what do you see? When you look at a couple being affectionate and whispering in each others’ ears on a park bench, what do you see?

There’s body language that we take in every day to interpret the lives of others. If you walk past a person in the office with their head down, avoiding eye contact as opposed to someone who looks at you, smiles, and says, “Good Morning,” what do you see about those two people? What is different?

Today’s quote by Henry David Thoreau is asking us to put on our attentive glasses. To be aware and observant of our surroundings. It’s not what you look at that is important, but what you see. What you think. How you interpret.

Look around and realize your surroundings. Learn from them and anticipate the road ahead. Rather than blindly going through your day understand what you are looking at… See.

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Bit of Happy #118: The Gift of Sacrifice

10 Mar

“Anyone can give away something expensive, but only those who understand sacrifice can give away something valuable.”
-Kris Vallotton

A million dollars to a billionaire. A small single-family apartment to someone who owns five luxurious houses along some of the most desired coasts. A Honda to someone who owns a brand new BMW, Mercedes and some other super expensive car.

All of these high-ticket items are certainly expensive. They are all things that some people would love to have. At the same time, the billionaire, luxurious homeowner or car owner may very well give away these types of items to help a family, a friend or a charity. But without the understanding of sacrifice, without giving away something of personal value, they cannot truly embrace the gift of giving.

Until you sacrifice something precious to you to help another – something tangible like food or shelter, or something intangible like your time or your love – you can’t possibly understand the entirety to giving.

I think Kris Vallotton brings up a great point. And in light of the giving season, why don’t we all think of something or some way we can give back to our communities?

I never understood why people gave up certain foods for Lent, or promised to exercise daily… something that is beneficial to only who… you. But that’s not really what this time of year is about at all. It’s about sacrifice. And that’s not sacrificing something for personal benefit… it’s supposed to bring happiness and benefit to others. So, give up that junk food and soda, sure… but give it to someone who needs it. Donate it to a local after school program. Or, take the money that you would have spent on that junk food and put it to good use. Good use to benefit others. Make the commitment to exercise every day, sure… but work towards some type of charity walk or race for the cure. Put your energy into something, sacrifice that time and effort to help others who are fighting for their lives.

How can we help others? I think that’s the true question we need to ask ourselves. And the answer to that question lies in being willing to sacrifice… willing to give away something valuable to our lives. That’s when we put the benefit of others above our own. That’s when we make a real difference. That’s when we learn the true value of giving and of self-sacrifice.

Bit of Happy #91: Pressing Beyond Your Limits

1 Feb

“In each of us are places where we have never gone. Only by pressing the limits do you ever find them.”
-Joyce Brothers

There are two choices in life – to stay in the safety and comfort of everything you know, or to break beyond that barrier and look past the limits you have created in your mind. Only you hold yourself back from what is possible, what is opportune. The world is reflecting in your eyes. The true question is, how will you reflect back in the world?

When I first came across this quote, I fell in love with its verisimilitude. The power of what this quote is suggesting – to break out of your comfort zone, to press beyond your limits – takes an incredible dose of bravery and fortitude. The more we explore, the more we will learn. The more we push into the unknown, the more we will grow. I believe this quote offers an incredible perspective on life; one that we should all find enough courage to give a whirl.

Bit of Happy #59: A Tempting Wish Come True

3 Dec

“If I could wish for my life to be perfect, it would be tempting, but I would have to decline, for life would no longer teach me anything.”
-Allyson Jones

Happy Friday everyone! It’s been a long week, but a very productive one – I must admit. When I first came across this quote, it brought up an interesting question. Made me sit and think for a little while. Reflect.

If given the chance would I wish for my life to be perfect? And honestly, I don’t think my answer would be much different from Allyson’s. By leading a perfect life, there would be no room for error, no room for growth. You would make no mistakes, and you wouldn’t be able to learn from them.

Without challenges and hardships, how can one truly appreciate times of happiness? I find that when I endure and overcome the burdens and difficulties life tests me with, I learn to value all of the love and support I have along the way – more so than if life was a piece of cake.

And then you may ask, why are we even talking about this? It’s impossible to have a perfect life anyway; it will always have its challenges. And you know what, I can’t argue with you. You’re 100% correct. Life will never and can never be perfect – free of hardships, pessimism, injustices. But… yes, believe it or not there is a but

Despite the fact that it’s an invalid question, it isn’t necessarily a worthless thought. This type of reflection can make us realize what we have in life, the things we appreciate and the people who we love the most. Asking ourselves this question can even help us find a new appreciation for the challenges and hardships that life may throw our way.

And you may ask… why would someone ever want  bad things to happen in life? The answer I can offer is this… out from the difficulties we face, we learn. We grow. We appreciate. We find gratefulness. We may care deeper and love stronger. And to me, these realizations make this quote worthwhile and the question worth asking.

What would you do if faced with the opportunity to live out a perfect life? What would you choose?

Bit of Happy #50: Forever

22 Nov

It’s Bit of Happy #50 today! For some reason, I feel like this is some kind of milestone that I should recognize – half way to one hundred. Kind of ironic that today’s song is titled ‘Forever.’

Made me wonder how long Little Bits of Happy will last. I started this blog with no distinct idea of when I would be finished – no clear end point. The only goal I truly wanted to accomplish was to inspire others to seek out their own happiness through my little bits of happy, my favorite quotes. But when will I know I’ve reach that? Maybe I’ll find the answer to this question one day. But for now, I’m okay with not knowing. I’m okay with this question going unanswered.

Now to the song! ‘Forever’ by Ben Harper has been one of my favorites ever since I heard it for the first time. The gentle melody, the softly spoken lyrics and the revealed truth make this song one that I’ll never stop listening to. Sung almost at a whisper, the feeling expressed in these lyrics are strong and unforgettable. So feel free to have a listen. Hope you enjoy it!

“Forever always seems to be around when things begin, but forever never seems to be around when things end.”

The forever he sings about in this song, “Not talking about a year. No, not three or four. I don’t want that kind of forever in my life anymore,” is the kind of forever that everyone wants to find one day, right? But when do things truly last   f  o  r  e  v  e  r ? When is there as much passion and love in the beginning as there is in the end? Is it even possible? So often, our relationships take on a superficial type of forever. So often, things end with heart break. So often, things end in separation. So often, things end in divorce. What was once forever reflecting in your eyes, now leaves you wondering if things will last until tomorrow. Wow, this doesn’t sound very encouraging…

But it is meant to. Even with all odds against me, I still believe forever exists. I believe it is possible. I hope I can find my forever. Not necessarily any time soon – but one day. This song is meant to make you reflect. Make you think. Think about the future. Think about what you truly want out of this life. This song makes me recognize what the world is too often like, but it also makes me believe that there are still people out there looking for the real forever. The type of love that never dies. The type of love that understands and makes no promises that the cool winds won’t blow. The type of love that, against all odds, will never let the flame burn out, no matter what.

“So give me your forever, not a day less will do… from you.”

My BIGGEST question for you is… Did you see this as a sad song or a happy one? Was it the melody that made it sad or the lyrics?

Did you take something differently from this song?

Do you disagree with the lyrics or do you believe that are right on point?


Bit of Happy #43: Taken For Granted

11 Nov

“You never truly know what you have until you lose it, and once you lose it, it’s gone forever.”
-Anonymous

In life, it is too easy to take things for granted and too difficult to fully understand how much you appreciate something – that is, until it’s gone. Too often we go through the everyday routine and forget the people and things that mean the most to us. We get stuck in this repetitive cycle and lose touch and attentiveness towards those who we couldn’t see ourselves living without. We begin to take one another for granted – the relationship for granted. And before you know it, you may be going through every day with each other yet know absolutely nothing about what the other is going through. And this happens way too often in life.

So, what can you do? Take a moment. Think of all of the incredible people you have in your life. What if they were gone? Or what if they would be gone tomorrow? Would you treat them differently today? Would you listen more carefully? Would you show them how much you care? Would you tell them you love them over and over and over again because you fear not being able to say it enough? Answering yes to any of these questions – you then have to ask yourself… Am I willing to let the everyday get in way of showing the ones that mean the most to me how much I love them? Am I willing to take the ones that mean the most to me for granted?

And if the answer to those questions are no, how will you change your life? How will you show others you care about them? How will you show them that you don’t want to take them for granted – not for one day of your life? Up until the last beat of your heart, how will you show them you love them more than anything?

I don’t have the answers to these questions. They are for you to answer. And you only. However, a good way to start might be…

Tell those who you care about that you care about them. Tell those who you love that you love them. It never hurts to remind them. Not just once. Not just twice. But every day. Every day, remind them that you couldn’t imagine your life without them.

Bit of Happy #41: Leave it up to chance?

9 Nov

Adorable little flowers I came across as I was
walking along a road near my house.

“There’s a time to let things happen, and a time to make things happen.”
– Hugh Prather

The hardest part is knowing what moments in your life call for which approach. When you should sit back and let the opportunity come to you, and when you should chase after that dream and make it happen are two completely different things. Depending upon what you’re contemplating will ultimately determine what route you should choose.

The only advice I can lend you is to follow your heart. Don’t think about it too much, and you’ll surely find your answer with time. Just be sure not to suffocate a chance that is meant to be free-spirited. If that’s even a question in your mind, take the passenger seat for a while and see what happens. Otherwise, I say go for it! There are times in life when patience is a lost opportunity.

I know it can be a difficult thing to judge, especially for certain, more delicate situations. But something that often brings me a sense of comfort in all of this is that if it is meant to happen, it will always find its way.

And on that note, I’ll leave you with a question (or a few)…

Is there something in your life you’ve been pondering on what you should do? What are some experiences that you’ve learned from in the past that you’ll do differently in the future?

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