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Bit of Happy #148: Together Forever

21 Apr

“We have been friends together in sunshine and in shade.”
-Anonymous

The type of friendship that we all search and long for. Reliability. Strength. Trust. Honesty. A friendship that will uphold through the thick and thin, in the sunshine and shade. That no matter what life brings, no matter what the obstacle or challenge at hand, two true friends will walk together.

Not only does today’s quote suggest this wonderful, “picture-perfect” friendship, but the author also hints towards it being possible (which is one of my favorite parts!). That, in spoken words, it has come true. That an unbreakable bond can be formed between two people throughout life. That compassion and selflessness can shine through despite the crazy ride our lives tend to lead.

And it’s the unpredictable future, the inevitable unknown that truly proves the strength of a friendship. Puts every aspect to the test. There is no doubt that relationships go through ups and downs – bend just before the point of breaking. Despite this struggle, it’s the willingness to fight for the other that will pull both of you through. That will bring your friendship out of the shade and back into the sun.

And the best part, that time of trial will have mostly likely made that bond stronger, richer… more full. You may have learned something new about the other person, or your relationship with them. You may have revealed a new depth of yourself and can now better understand the meaning of trust. You may have proven your confidence and faithfulness to the friendship in a time of doubt.

Always remember… when you find a friendship like the one described in today’s quote, treasure it like gold. Be willing to give it all of the nurture and effort it requires. Hold on tight because the ride along the way can be full of dips and sharp turns. Whether you’re in the shade or basking in the sunshine, hopefully when you look over at that special person, you can smile. You can smile and know that as long as they are at your side, everything will be just fine.

Do you have a friend like this in your life? What are some challenges you have faced along the way?

Bit of Happy #111: More Wonderful Still

1 Mar

Today’s quote, shared by Greg, sounds the beat of a slightly different Little Bit of Happy drum. Nonetheless, it’s a great quote, and certainly one that we all can learn a little something from. And that to me makes for a ‘worthy of sharing’ quote! Despite his approach to writing on a whim – “I’m am planning to just type, not really thinking as I go” – what follows is a beautifully natural-written piece. So I’d like to thank Greg the moon, the stars and the world for taking the time to share his thoughts and opinions on this quote. I hope everyone enjoys this unique interpretation of Buechner’s quote as much as I did.

THANK YOUUUU!

“When I first read this quote, I was a bit worried that it may leave an impression to not try new things or overcome obstacles on your own. With the possible interpretation of negativity, I – at first – was afraid that this may not be a little bit of happy. But thinking now, I feel like I can spin the last bit of this quote into something inspirational and happy.

Trying to get by on your own strength in life instead of reaching out to others when you need support will make each step in life a struggle. Missing out on that growth of trusting, but the hardness that going through life alone requires will wear you out. Unfortunately, this is something I do often. I hate asking for help, and for some reason, I feel like if I am able to accomplish something on my own I will come out stronger. However, being resistant towards the love and care from others never gets anyone anywhere.

Steeling yourself against reality can also come in the form of not showing emotion. Society has ingrained in us, men especially, that showing emotion is the equivalent of showing weakness. A man who feels he has mastered his emotions also believes he has overcome all weakness and achieved strength. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Really, he is just emotionally void and cannot experience life or relationships as they are meant. Again… I am guilty of this too.

People shield themselves from the world by not giving their forgiveness. Others make mistakes. We are all human; no one is so perfect that one cannot harm someone emotionally or physically. If someone hurts you, are you really going to shut him or her out, cut off some portion of yourself to them, or just move on from them altogether? Who are you to make such a judgment when you yourself have harmed others just the same?

The commonality of all of these actions is that the person not asking for help, being apathetic, and never giving their forgiveness is the one missing out. That person is missing out on learning a solution to one of their problems, a chance to be the emotional being that we are made to be, and the chance to find resolution and a rekindled relationship. On the other hand, we can just say it like it is in the quote, you are not allowing yourself to be opened up and transformed.

Life will be far more rewarding, have far more love, and have many more strong relationships if people are able to just be who they are without trying to show they’re stronger than emotion, stronger than another person, or stronger than life itself.

This quote is most relevant when it comes to relationships with the people we love. If you cannot submit to some emotions, admit you need help, or forgive others, your relationships will not be as meaningful or as fruitful as they can be. Not only will the relationship suffer, but so will you. You will be missing out of more love, grace, humility, mercy, and companionship than you could ever imagine.

Life is not worth living as the Lone Ranger trying to save the day with his silver bullet. When you are in trouble, sound the alarm, have those you love come to your aid. Show your emotions; people want to see them. Show those that you love that you love them. Finally, forgive those who hurt you. You’re not as strong when you are own as you would be with someone loving at your side. And when you realize that, life will be… more wonderful still.

Bit of Happy #26: Cheerful To All You Meet

19 Oct

I love how today’s photograph turned out!
Taken while visiting Amanda at St. Mary’s College.

“In life, you can never be too kind or too fair; everyone you meet is carrying a heavy load. When you go through your day expressing kindness and courtesy to all you meet, you leave behind a feeling of warmth and good cheer, and you help alleviate the burdens everyone is struggling with.”
-Anonymous

Speaking of heavy burdens, I’ve had quite the past couple of weeks. But because of some amazing people in life, I’m making it through. It’s nice to know I have shoulders to lean on when I need it. When I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, I have others that promise me it’s there. And with a little faith, all will be okay. And you better bet my shoulder, tissues and listening ears will be there waiting when they need it (which hopefully they never will). But I would never take what I can’t give in return, especially when it comes to friendship.

I absolutely adore this quote and try to always keep it in mind while going through each day. You never know what people are going through in the moments your paths cross; you never know what impact a simple smile and greeting can have on their day. Be mindful. Be aware. Respect others and never blind yourself of the fact that people all around you may be going through the exact same thing you are, better or worse.

Do you like this quote?

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