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Bit of Happy #148: Together Forever

21 Apr

“We have been friends together in sunshine and in shade.”
-Anonymous

The type of friendship that we all search and long for. Reliability. Strength. Trust. Honesty. A friendship that will uphold through the thick and thin, in the sunshine and shade. That no matter what life brings, no matter what the obstacle or challenge at hand, two true friends will walk together.

Not only does today’s quote suggest this wonderful, “picture-perfect” friendship, but the author also hints towards it being possible (which is one of my favorite parts!). That, in spoken words, it has come true. That an unbreakable bond can be formed between two people throughout life. That compassion and selflessness can shine through despite the crazy ride our lives tend to lead.

And it’s the unpredictable future, the inevitable unknown that truly proves the strength of a friendship. Puts every aspect to the test. There is no doubt that relationships go through ups and downs – bend just before the point of breaking. Despite this struggle, it’s the willingness to fight for the other that will pull both of you through. That will bring your friendship out of the shade and back into the sun.

And the best part, that time of trial will have mostly likely made that bond stronger, richer… more full. You may have learned something new about the other person, or your relationship with them. You may have revealed a new depth of yourself and can now better understand the meaning of trust. You may have proven your confidence and faithfulness to the friendship in a time of doubt.

Always remember… when you find a friendship like the one described in today’s quote, treasure it like gold. Be willing to give it all of the nurture and effort it requires. Hold on tight because the ride along the way can be full of dips and sharp turns. Whether you’re in the shade or basking in the sunshine, hopefully when you look over at that special person, you can smile. You can smile and know that as long as they are at your side, everything will be just fine.

Do you have a friend like this in your life? What are some challenges you have faced along the way?

Bit of Happy #139: Walk Until You Can Trip

8 Apr

“You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover’s arms can only come later when you’re sure they won’t laugh if you trip.”
-Jonathan Carroll

Or, at the very least, you’ll both be laughing with each other.

So, today’s quote by Jonathan Carroll has a ton of hidden advice – advice that I think could be very valuable to all. He isn’t really speaking literally when he tells us to walk and not run when you first meet a love interest.

Instead, he is making the point to try guarding yourself to a certain extent in the beginning. Not keep things hidden from the other, but expose your true personality a little slowly; let things develop naturally – if that makes any sense. We don’t need to reveal our whole life story, weird quirks and bad habits on our first date with someone else, but those should be things that come out with time.

And with all of those aside, the most important thing to guard is your heart. Until you can make mistakes and show your true colors, walk. Until you can experience new things and put faith into them when you feel insecure, walk. Until you can trust the other person to fall in love completely and fully, walk.

But… the moment you can do all of those things, run. Run as fast as you can. And once you reach your lover’s arms, hang on as tight as possible, because life is a wild ride with no guarantees. Oh yeah, and even if you trip, they’ll at least be there to pick you up.

Bit of Happy #111: More Wonderful Still

1 Mar

Today’s quote, shared by Greg, sounds the beat of a slightly different Little Bit of Happy drum. Nonetheless, it’s a great quote, and certainly one that we all can learn a little something from. And that to me makes for a ‘worthy of sharing’ quote! Despite his approach to writing on a whim – “I’m am planning to just type, not really thinking as I go” – what follows is a beautifully natural-written piece. So I’d like to thank Greg the moon, the stars and the world for taking the time to share his thoughts and opinions on this quote. I hope everyone enjoys this unique interpretation of Buechner’s quote as much as I did.

THANK YOUUUU!

“When I first read this quote, I was a bit worried that it may leave an impression to not try new things or overcome obstacles on your own. With the possible interpretation of negativity, I – at first – was afraid that this may not be a little bit of happy. But thinking now, I feel like I can spin the last bit of this quote into something inspirational and happy.

Trying to get by on your own strength in life instead of reaching out to others when you need support will make each step in life a struggle. Missing out on that growth of trusting, but the hardness that going through life alone requires will wear you out. Unfortunately, this is something I do often. I hate asking for help, and for some reason, I feel like if I am able to accomplish something on my own I will come out stronger. However, being resistant towards the love and care from others never gets anyone anywhere.

Steeling yourself against reality can also come in the form of not showing emotion. Society has ingrained in us, men especially, that showing emotion is the equivalent of showing weakness. A man who feels he has mastered his emotions also believes he has overcome all weakness and achieved strength. Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Really, he is just emotionally void and cannot experience life or relationships as they are meant. Again… I am guilty of this too.

People shield themselves from the world by not giving their forgiveness. Others make mistakes. We are all human; no one is so perfect that one cannot harm someone emotionally or physically. If someone hurts you, are you really going to shut him or her out, cut off some portion of yourself to them, or just move on from them altogether? Who are you to make such a judgment when you yourself have harmed others just the same?

The commonality of all of these actions is that the person not asking for help, being apathetic, and never giving their forgiveness is the one missing out. That person is missing out on learning a solution to one of their problems, a chance to be the emotional being that we are made to be, and the chance to find resolution and a rekindled relationship. On the other hand, we can just say it like it is in the quote, you are not allowing yourself to be opened up and transformed.

Life will be far more rewarding, have far more love, and have many more strong relationships if people are able to just be who they are without trying to show they’re stronger than emotion, stronger than another person, or stronger than life itself.

This quote is most relevant when it comes to relationships with the people we love. If you cannot submit to some emotions, admit you need help, or forgive others, your relationships will not be as meaningful or as fruitful as they can be. Not only will the relationship suffer, but so will you. You will be missing out of more love, grace, humility, mercy, and companionship than you could ever imagine.

Life is not worth living as the Lone Ranger trying to save the day with his silver bullet. When you are in trouble, sound the alarm, have those you love come to your aid. Show your emotions; people want to see them. Show those that you love that you love them. Finally, forgive those who hurt you. You’re not as strong when you are own as you would be with someone loving at your side. And when you realize that, life will be… more wonderful still.

Bit of Happy #107: The Turning Point

23 Feb

“The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.”
-Max Lerner

To get over the hill of this week, today’s quote by Max Lerner brings light to a new discovery and lesson in learning more about who you are and where your strength lies. In life, there are moments and experiences that we would mark as losing trust in someone we love or in other words, getting hurt. Despite that pain, there’s a part of you, no matter how small, that continues to go on past that hurt. And it’s that part of you that becomes your core strength. The strength that will outlast beyond any hurdle you are faced with.

And when you recognize that strength, that’s when you begin to learn who you are and where to go within yourself when you need the strength to press on. It’s a beautiful discovery; a new form of growth. And when a new test of strength comes along, you will have enough faith in knowing you will survive any challenge.

Bit of Happy #92: Your Eyes Tell All

2 Feb

“Our eyes are placed in front because it is more important to look ahead than to look behind.”
-Anonymous

What a perfect quote for a perfect Wednesday! This has been one of my absolute favorites for a long time. As a constant reminder to look ahead to the future, what better way than the placement of your eyes?!

Created to move forward in life, we strive to achieve great things. Everything around us is in similar progression. Nothing in life can ever move backwards. Nothing can ever retreat. Even on a battle field, there’s still a progression of time and effort – whether or not the opposing side is forcing you to physically regress.

It’s the same thing with someone’s mind. You can choose to live in your past. You can choose to build walls around your heart in protection. You can choose to allow no one in. You can choose to take no risk, no chance. But you can’t choose that the future is happening all around you. Constantly. Each second that you spend guarded is a second lost to your past.

But with if instead, you choose to allow the past to live as a memory, as a lesson? What if you choose to live in the present? What if you choose to look ahead into the future? What if you choose to focus on the positive? There are a lot of moments in life that will test your strength. Your ability to trust again after being hurt. Your determination to see the good in every situation. Your willingness to help and love others unconditionally.

Take note to the placement of your eyes. I’m not necessarily sure I believe in fate or that there is a reason for everything that happens; however, I find an incredible amount of comfort in the possibility. So with that said, this quote gives a bright outlook on life. One in which gives us reason to look forward. To find excitement in possibility. To take an optimistic approach as we walk through each and every day. And in my opinion, if a quote can do that… It’s a quote worth keeping.

Happy Wednesday!

Bit of Happy #70: I Run To You

20 Dec

“I Run To You”
by Lady Antebellum

Without a doubt, ‘I Run To You’ by Lady Antebellum is one of my favorite songs right now. I’d been planning all weekend for it to be today’s Music Quote Monday, and I – unfortunately – don’t own the song, nor do I hear it very often on the radio. But funny enough, as I was driving home from work today it came on 93.1, and I got really excited – so excited, I sang it at the top of my lungs.

Why do I love it so much? Well, aside from the incredibly talented country band that plays this song, I’m in love with the lyrics. ABSOLUTELY in love! Here are a few of my most favorite lines:

(And I apologize now that it’s practically the whole song.)

“When lies become the truth,
that’s when I run to you…

This world keeps spinning faster
Into a new disaster,
So I run to you, I run to you.
When it all starts coming undone,
You’re the only one I run to, I run to you.”

More than anything, I’m looking for this type of love described in the chorus – this type of support in a relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I have plenty of people in my life that love and care about me – that I could go to for anything, about anything without hesitation. While I’m ever grateful and fortunate that I have this type of support, I’m also excited to find someone. That one special person. The person I can run to for support. For protection. For advice. For love. For everything. And even in this crazy world that we live in, I would know when I open my eyes in the morning and close them at night… he’ll be there. It is something that I look forward to, but not necessarily need in this moment or anytime soon. He’ll come around when the time is right – now, or many, many days from now.

“We run on fumes, your life and mine,
Like the sands of time slippin’ right on through.
And our love’s the only truth,
That’s why I run to you…”

Of this verse, I especially love the last two lines. To be able to believe completely in another person. To be able to trust without an ounce of doubt. To be able to know someone better than you know yourself… well, to me, that’s something I could never take for granted a day in my life. Something I would never want to take for granted a day in my life. To achieve that type of closeness, that type of trust… I think I would consider myself to be the luckiest person in the world.

Now it’s your turn! Have a listen, and be sure to let me know what you think! I hope you like it as much, or even more than I do (though I don’t think that’s possible, lol).

Oh, and by the way… the music video is amazing! I hadn’t seen it until today when I was searching for a video of the song to post. Feel free to talk about what you can take from the video as well when you share your thoughts!

Happy Monday! Hope everyone had a great day!

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Bit of Happy #44: The Fuel For Love

12 Nov

An old barn near my house.

“Your ability to trust fuels your ability to love.”
-Anonymous

To me, it’s amazing how so few words strung together can hold so much truth – so much meaning. It is something I’ve said for a long time now. Trust is everything in the eyes of love; without it, you are blind and with it, you can see forever and beyond.

What I love most about this quote is the word chosen – ability. Your ability. The amount of trust you can put into someone equates to or drives your ability to love another. Without it, love simply cannot exist.

The importance this quote lends to trust in reference to love, I believe, is true. So true. It’s monumental. Trust is the very foundation of love. If you build a foundation of straw, it’ll surely collapse as time goes on. If you build a relationship on lies and deception, it’ll surely disintegrate to nothing. However, the foundation that’ll last forever is the one build on trust, leading to love.

Now, where it gets interesting (well, interesting isn’t quite the right word) is when you add in all of the heartache and lies of previous relationships. Will it affect your ability to trust in something new that comes along? Will you put up a guard and try to protect yourself from getting hurt again? Is closing your ability to trust someone new the answer to keeping yourself from heartache? Without a willingness to trust another, will you find yourself alone in the end?

If you’re expecting me to answer all of these questions, then you’ve come to the wrong place. Just as much as you may want to know these answers, I think they may be different for each person. I still find myself searching for the answers to these very questions. What is right for me.

Anyway, this is what I thought about when I came across this quote. What do you think?


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